Do you know how most women end up losing the man in their life? Do you know the reason most men end up losing interest in the woman who they used to be wild about?Do you know how to lose a man, and how to do it lightning-fast?But why would you want to know about how to LOSE a man?
Well, I'm going to throw out a crazy idea for you to think about... I'm going to suggest that you are probably
already an EXPERT at losing a man. In fact, it might just come naturally for you.
For lots of women, this seems to be the case.But the real PROBLEM is that most women don't
UNDERSTAND why they're so good at LOSING the
man in their life.
In other words, they walk through the world screwing up one situation after another and never
realize just how good they are at being bad with understanding men.
And they don't realize that by changing just a few key things they could change their lives and their experiences with men DRAMATICALLY.
One great way to increase your success in life is to start REALIZING what you're doing.
Most people call this AWARENESS.
The point being, once you actually understand what you're doing and the results you're helping to create around you, you can CHANGE.
TYPICAL THINGS WOMEN DO WITH MEN
Try this on for size...
What happens if a man expects you to act or behave a certain way that's "negative" and he
doesn't like... and then you show up and act this way?
Right.
Not only does he not like the way you're being with him... but you're also doing something else
that will have him seeing you in an even worse light...
You'll be acting very PREDICTABLE and fulfilling all of the worst expectations a man might have about you, or about women in general.
Here's something you might not have thought about-You, like lots of other women, are probably acting in a ways that are often very PREDICTABLE to men. In fact, PAINFULLY predictable.
The thing is... as humans, we do basically the same things when we get into common situations as others, and we don't even realize it.
Predictable responses to common situations happen often enough for most people that when we get around someone new in our life... we can often guess what's going to happen next.
Part of this serves a useful purpose for us socially and in the way we relate and connect with each other. But part of it works entirely AGAINST US.
Here's why being predictable can be so bad when it comes to men and dating...
Look at this formula:
Predictable = Boring
Boring = Emotionally Flat
Emotionally Flat = No ATTRACTION
No Attraction = No Interest or Attention or Affection From A Man
One of the VERY BEST ways to lose a man is to act or become very PREDICTABLE.
A huge mistake women make that causes them to start acting predictable to men in negative ways
is GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER or putting your life "on hold" for a man while you're trying to make sure your relationship is working.
The reality is that men are NOT attracted to women who aren't living their lives in a fulfilling way.
At least not HEALTHY AND ATTRACTIVE MEN who would rather have NO RELATIONSHIP and be alone if they can't have the right kind of relationship for them.
Here are a few examples of how women act PREDICTABLE, give too much of themselves away, and make about 129 other huge mistakes with men they've just met or are dating:
1) Calling Him All The Time
If you like or love someone, it's great to let them know, right?Yes and No
There's a way to let a man know you love him or you're thinking about him that will end up making him feel like you're "needy" and clingy and he'll want space away from you. It's great if you feel so strongly for a man
and you share such a great connection that you can't wait until the next time you talk.
But even if you're not feeling "needy" about why you call a man all the time... a man will often PERCEIVE this as a sign of INSECURITY and NEEDINESS and actually start wanting to talk to you and be around you less and less.
Calling a man all the time and constantly wanting to talk, and to have him talk to you is a great way to lose a man before you even have him.
2) Doing "Nice Things" And Favors For Him
What do lots of women do when they meet a guy that they "really like" and things are slow to come together?
Well, they get into a series of long life conversation about schools and families and jobs and 100 other everyday things that everyone has going on in their lives... only to realize that it isn't creating ATTRACTION inside the man even though they're sharing with each other.
He's completely "in his own head" and not paying much attention to them. And being "nice" doesn't work either.
3) Acting Like His Girlfriend From The Beginning
What's better than a nice, thoughtful woman who is loving and reassuring and nurturing from the very first date?
The man is just starting to get to know her, and if he feels a "serious relationship" starting before he's even had time to figure out how he feels about this woman and if she'd be right for him... most of the time he'll pull
away without any explanation.
If you come on too strong too soon in terms of calling him "pet names", or staying home on Friday and Saturday nights, or naming your kids before you know each others last names... you'll appear just like every other predictable woman that has ever tried to figure out what a man and a relationship is all about before it even gets time to grow.
4) Telling Him How You "Feel" Too Early On
This might be one of my favorites because it feels so "right" and comes so naturally, but creates the wrong situations and dynamics with a man
For some UNKNOWN and UNGODLY reason, women just seem to LOVE telling great men how they FEEL within the first couple of dates.Maybe even within the first few hours.Again, when you do this you're making all kinds of huge mistakes...and basically doing everything you can do to LOSE him by playing right into the very things that aren't going to work for you,help you be your "best self", or create the OUTCOME
you're looking for.
5) Keep Telling Him How You Feel When He Needs Space
And as if the last example wasn't painful enough, most women usually like to use this final "nail in the coffin" technique as well...
Here's the situation:
You've met a guy you really like. Maybe you've gone out with him a few times. Doesn't matter.
You do all the things you can think of to SCREW IT UP, and you finally succeed.
You prove to him that you just don't get it,that you'll lose your composure quickly and easily and let it all out around him... and generally show him that you're easily scared and don't know how to handle yourself or what's going on between you.
So he says, "I need some space" or "I need some time to myself".
And what do most women do? Of course. They KEEP telling the man how they feel. They keep trying to "figure it all out"and they keep trying to understand and to feel understood.
And they do it in 100 annoying ways that only make the man want to get farther away.
The thought that most women have is, "If he only understood how I REALLY FELT ABOUT HIM, then
he would see past all this and LOVE ME".
It's painful just typing the words.
So there you have it. Part of the magic formula for losing a man
fast. Interesting, isn't it?
But there's a much DEEPER message here.
The message is this:
If you don't understand the process of how to make a man feel ATTRACTION for you, including the
things to AVOID doing, then you're not going to have success.
Not knowing how the things you're doing and saying affect a man makes it very difficult (or impossible) to create what you want with a man. And unfortunately, some women have a HUGE disadvantage when it comes to men and dating...
You have emotional responses to situations that take over your thinking and reasoning, and make you do all the wrong things.
It's usually OURSELVES that best sabotage our own success in life.
Don't let this get you down though...
The GOOD NEWS is that it does NOT have to be this way. There is a BETTER way.
If you found this particular discussion interesting, then you're probably ready to learn the DEEPER secrets of how to be more successful with men and dating.
If you're ready to STOP losing men faster than you can meet them, then it's probably time for you to step up and get yourself an education about how to attract a man and KEEP him attracted.
There's an old story that I love thinking about... It's about a student wandering from town to town looking for enlightenment.
At each town he asks if anyone knows of a teacher who can show him the way, but he has no luck finding what he seeks.
Finally, the student comes to a town and is told that there's a wise teacher up on the hill,and that he should go and knock on his door.
The student goes up the hill and finds the teacher sitting at a table in his temple.
The student walks in a takes a seat at the table and asks the teacher if he knows about enlightenment.
The teacher says nothing, but puts a cup in front of the student and starts pouring tea
into the cup.
The student watches as the cup starts to fill up, and then spill over onto the table.
The student then says, "Hey, stop. You're spilling the tea."
The teacher then says, "That cup is like you."
The student is perplexed and doesn't know what to say. The teacher says again, "That cup is like
you. It is already full. Before you can take anything more in, we're going to have to empty out what's already filling it."
If you're looking for quick answers or tips on how to make things work better when it comes to men,dating, and relationships... I have some for you.
But the truth is that if you're finding yourself not only making some of the common mistakes I'm talking about... and you have some idea in the back of your mind that they are really coming from somewhere "deeper" inside you that's the source of why you get in your own way with men... then I want to give you more than answers.
I want to help you get rid of what's already there that isn't working for you first.
That way, once you clear away what isn't working and is blocking you from getting what you want... taking the right positive steps will be much much easier.
Past loves, past relationships, and past situations with men can have painful and lasting affects on you.
And if you don't make sure to heal all the things you might be carrying from the past, it's going to be tough to not bring those into each and every new relationship in your life.
Well, I'm going to throw out a crazy idea for you to think about... I'm going to suggest that you are probably
already an EXPERT at losing a man. In fact, it might just come naturally for you.
For lots of women, this seems to be the case.But the real PROBLEM is that most women don't
UNDERSTAND why they're so good at LOSING the
man in their life.
In other words, they walk through the world screwing up one situation after another and never
realize just how good they are at being bad with understanding men.
And they don't realize that by changing just a few key things they could change their lives and their experiences with men DRAMATICALLY.
One great way to increase your success in life is to start REALIZING what you're doing.
Most people call this AWARENESS.
The point being, once you actually understand what you're doing and the results you're helping to create around you, you can CHANGE.
TYPICAL THINGS WOMEN DO WITH MEN
Try this on for size...
What happens if a man expects you to act or behave a certain way that's "negative" and he
doesn't like... and then you show up and act this way?
Right.
Not only does he not like the way you're being with him... but you're also doing something else
that will have him seeing you in an even worse light...
You'll be acting very PREDICTABLE and fulfilling all of the worst expectations a man might have about you, or about women in general.
Here's something you might not have thought about-You, like lots of other women, are probably acting in a ways that are often very PREDICTABLE to men. In fact, PAINFULLY predictable.
The thing is... as humans, we do basically the same things when we get into common situations as others, and we don't even realize it.
Predictable responses to common situations happen often enough for most people that when we get around someone new in our life... we can often guess what's going to happen next.
Part of this serves a useful purpose for us socially and in the way we relate and connect with each other. But part of it works entirely AGAINST US.
Here's why being predictable can be so bad when it comes to men and dating...
Look at this formula:
Predictable = Boring
Boring = Emotionally Flat
Emotionally Flat = No ATTRACTION
No Attraction = No Interest or Attention or Affection From A Man
One of the VERY BEST ways to lose a man is to act or become very PREDICTABLE.
A huge mistake women make that causes them to start acting predictable to men in negative ways
is GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER or putting your life "on hold" for a man while you're trying to make sure your relationship is working.
The reality is that men are NOT attracted to women who aren't living their lives in a fulfilling way.
At least not HEALTHY AND ATTRACTIVE MEN who would rather have NO RELATIONSHIP and be alone if they can't have the right kind of relationship for them.
Here are a few examples of how women act PREDICTABLE, give too much of themselves away, and make about 129 other huge mistakes with men they've just met or are dating:
1) Calling Him All The Time
If you like or love someone, it's great to let them know, right?Yes and No
There's a way to let a man know you love him or you're thinking about him that will end up making him feel like you're "needy" and clingy and he'll want space away from you. It's great if you feel so strongly for a man
and you share such a great connection that you can't wait until the next time you talk.
But even if you're not feeling "needy" about why you call a man all the time... a man will often PERCEIVE this as a sign of INSECURITY and NEEDINESS and actually start wanting to talk to you and be around you less and less.
Calling a man all the time and constantly wanting to talk, and to have him talk to you is a great way to lose a man before you even have him.
2) Doing "Nice Things" And Favors For Him
What do lots of women do when they meet a guy that they "really like" and things are slow to come together?
Well, they get into a series of long life conversation about schools and families and jobs and 100 other everyday things that everyone has going on in their lives... only to realize that it isn't creating ATTRACTION inside the man even though they're sharing with each other.
He's completely "in his own head" and not paying much attention to them. And being "nice" doesn't work either.
3) Acting Like His Girlfriend From The Beginning
What's better than a nice, thoughtful woman who is loving and reassuring and nurturing from the very first date?
The man is just starting to get to know her, and if he feels a "serious relationship" starting before he's even had time to figure out how he feels about this woman and if she'd be right for him... most of the time he'll pull
away without any explanation.
If you come on too strong too soon in terms of calling him "pet names", or staying home on Friday and Saturday nights, or naming your kids before you know each others last names... you'll appear just like every other predictable woman that has ever tried to figure out what a man and a relationship is all about before it even gets time to grow.
4) Telling Him How You "Feel" Too Early On
This might be one of my favorites because it feels so "right" and comes so naturally, but creates the wrong situations and dynamics with a man
For some UNKNOWN and UNGODLY reason, women just seem to LOVE telling great men how they FEEL within the first couple of dates.Maybe even within the first few hours.Again, when you do this you're making all kinds of huge mistakes...and basically doing everything you can do to LOSE him by playing right into the very things that aren't going to work for you,help you be your "best self", or create the OUTCOME
you're looking for.
5) Keep Telling Him How You Feel When He Needs Space
And as if the last example wasn't painful enough, most women usually like to use this final "nail in the coffin" technique as well...
Here's the situation:
You've met a guy you really like. Maybe you've gone out with him a few times. Doesn't matter.
You do all the things you can think of to SCREW IT UP, and you finally succeed.
You prove to him that you just don't get it,that you'll lose your composure quickly and easily and let it all out around him... and generally show him that you're easily scared and don't know how to handle yourself or what's going on between you.
So he says, "I need some space" or "I need some time to myself".
And what do most women do? Of course. They KEEP telling the man how they feel. They keep trying to "figure it all out"and they keep trying to understand and to feel understood.
And they do it in 100 annoying ways that only make the man want to get farther away.
The thought that most women have is, "If he only understood how I REALLY FELT ABOUT HIM, then
he would see past all this and LOVE ME".
It's painful just typing the words.
So there you have it. Part of the magic formula for losing a man
fast. Interesting, isn't it?
But there's a much DEEPER message here.
The message is this:
If you don't understand the process of how to make a man feel ATTRACTION for you, including the
things to AVOID doing, then you're not going to have success.
Not knowing how the things you're doing and saying affect a man makes it very difficult (or impossible) to create what you want with a man. And unfortunately, some women have a HUGE disadvantage when it comes to men and dating...
You have emotional responses to situations that take over your thinking and reasoning, and make you do all the wrong things.
It's usually OURSELVES that best sabotage our own success in life.
Don't let this get you down though...
The GOOD NEWS is that it does NOT have to be this way. There is a BETTER way.
If you found this particular discussion interesting, then you're probably ready to learn the DEEPER secrets of how to be more successful with men and dating.
If you're ready to STOP losing men faster than you can meet them, then it's probably time for you to step up and get yourself an education about how to attract a man and KEEP him attracted.
There's an old story that I love thinking about... It's about a student wandering from town to town looking for enlightenment.
At each town he asks if anyone knows of a teacher who can show him the way, but he has no luck finding what he seeks.
Finally, the student comes to a town and is told that there's a wise teacher up on the hill,and that he should go and knock on his door.
The student goes up the hill and finds the teacher sitting at a table in his temple.
The student walks in a takes a seat at the table and asks the teacher if he knows about enlightenment.
The teacher says nothing, but puts a cup in front of the student and starts pouring tea
into the cup.
The student watches as the cup starts to fill up, and then spill over onto the table.
The student then says, "Hey, stop. You're spilling the tea."
The teacher then says, "That cup is like you."
The student is perplexed and doesn't know what to say. The teacher says again, "That cup is like
you. It is already full. Before you can take anything more in, we're going to have to empty out what's already filling it."
If you're looking for quick answers or tips on how to make things work better when it comes to men,dating, and relationships... I have some for you.
But the truth is that if you're finding yourself not only making some of the common mistakes I'm talking about... and you have some idea in the back of your mind that they are really coming from somewhere "deeper" inside you that's the source of why you get in your own way with men... then I want to give you more than answers.
I want to help you get rid of what's already there that isn't working for you first.
That way, once you clear away what isn't working and is blocking you from getting what you want... taking the right positive steps will be much much easier.
Past loves, past relationships, and past situations with men can have painful and lasting affects on you.
And if you don't make sure to heal all the things you might be carrying from the past, it's going to be tough to not bring those into each and every new relationship in your life.
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