5 Fast Ways To Lose A Man

Do you know how most women end up losing the man in their life? Do you know the reason most men end up losing interest in the woman who they used to be wild about?Do you know how to lose a man, and how to do it lightning-fast?But why would you want to know about how to LOSE a man?

Well, I'm going to throw out a crazy idea for you to think about... I'm going to suggest that you are probably
already an EXPERT at losing a man. In fact, it might just come naturally for you.
For lots of women, this seems to be the case.But the real PROBLEM is that most women don't
UNDERSTAND why they're so good at LOSING the
man in their life.
In other words, they walk through the world screwing up one situation after another and never
realize just how good they are at being bad with understanding men.
And they don't realize that by changing just  a few key things they could change their lives and their experiences with men DRAMATICALLY.

  One great way to increase your success in life is to start REALIZING what you're doing.
Most people call this AWARENESS.
The point being, once you actually understand what you're doing and the results you're helping to create around you, you can CHANGE.

TYPICAL THINGS WOMEN DO WITH MEN

  Try this on for size...
What happens if a man expects you to act or behave a certain way that's "negative" and he
doesn't like... and then you show up and act this way?
 Right.
Not only does he not like the way you're being with him... but you're also doing something else
that will have him seeing you in an even worse light...
You'll be acting very PREDICTABLE and fulfilling all of the worst expectations a man might have about you, or about women in general.

Here's something you might not have thought about-You, like lots of other women, are probably acting in a ways that are often very PREDICTABLE to men.  In fact, PAINFULLY predictable.
The thing is... as humans, we do basically the same things when we get into common situations as others, and we don't even realize it.

  Predictable responses to common situations happen often enough for most people that when we get around someone new in our life... we can often guess what's going to happen next.

  Part of this serves a useful purpose for us socially and in the way we relate and connect with each other.  But part of it works entirely AGAINST US. 

  Here's why being predictable can be so bad when it comes to men and dating...
  Look at this formula:
 Predictable = Boring
 Boring = Emotionally Flat
Emotionally Flat = No ATTRACTION
No Attraction = No Interest or Attention or Affection From A Man
One of the VERY BEST ways to lose a man is to act or become very PREDICTABLE.

  A huge mistake women make that causes them to start acting predictable to men in negative ways
is GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER or putting your life "on hold" for a man while you're trying to make sure your relationship is working.

 The reality is that men are NOT attracted to women who aren't living their lives in a fulfilling way.
At least not HEALTHY AND ATTRACTIVE MEN who would rather have NO RELATIONSHIP and be alone if they can't have the right kind of relationship for them.

 
  Here are a few examples of how women act PREDICTABLE, give too much of themselves away, and make about 129 other huge mistakes with men they've just met or are dating:


1) Calling Him All The Time
  If you like or love someone, it's great to let them know, right?Yes and No
  There's a way to let a man know you love him  or you're thinking about him that will end up making him feel like you're "needy" and clingy and he'll want space away from you.  It's great if you feel so strongly for a man
and you share such a great connection that you can't wait until the next time you talk.

  But even if you're not feeling "needy" about why you call a man all the time... a man will often PERCEIVE this as a sign of INSECURITY and NEEDINESS and actually start wanting to talk to you and be around you less and less.
 Calling a man all the time and constantly wanting to talk, and to have him talk to you is a great way to lose a man before you even have him.


2) Doing "Nice Things" And Favors For Him
  What do lots of women do when they meet a guy that they "really like" and things are slow to come together?

 Well, they get into a series of long life conversation about schools and families and jobs and 100 other everyday things that everyone has going on in their lives... only to realize that it isn't creating ATTRACTION inside the man even though they're sharing with each other.
He's completely "in his own head" and not paying much attention to them. And being "nice" doesn't work either.


3) Acting Like His Girlfriend From The Beginning

  What's better than a nice, thoughtful woman who is loving and reassuring and nurturing from the very first date?
  The man is just starting to get to know her, and if he feels a "serious relationship" starting before he's even had time to figure out how he feels about this woman and if she'd be right for him... most of the time he'll pull
away without any explanation. 
 If you come on too strong too soon in terms of calling him "pet names", or staying home on Friday and Saturday nights, or naming your kids before you know each others last names... you'll  appear just like every other predictable woman that has ever tried to figure out what a man and a relationship is all about before it even gets time to grow.


4) Telling Him How You "Feel" Too Early On
This might be one of my favorites because it feels so "right" and comes so naturally, but creates the wrong situations and dynamics with a man
  For some UNKNOWN and UNGODLY reason, women just seem to LOVE telling great men how they FEEL within the first couple of dates.Maybe even within the first few hours.Again, when you do this you're making all kinds of huge mistakes...and basically doing everything you can do to LOSE him by playing right into the very things that aren't going to work for you,help you be your "best self", or create the OUTCOME
you're looking for.


5) Keep Telling Him How You Feel When He Needs Space
 And as if the last example wasn't painful enough, most women usually like to use this final "nail in the coffin" technique as well...
  Here's the situation:
You've met a guy you really like. Maybe you've gone out with him a few times. Doesn't matter.
 You do all the things you can think of to SCREW IT UP, and you finally succeed.
You prove to him that you just don't get it,that you'll lose your composure quickly and easily and let it all out around him... and generally show him that you're easily scared and don't know how to handle yourself or what's going on between you.
So he says, "I need some space" or "I need some time to myself".

And what do most women do?  Of course. They KEEP telling the man how they feel. They keep trying to "figure it all out"and they keep trying to understand and to feel understood.
And they do it in 100 annoying ways that only make the man want to get farther away.

  The thought that most women have is, "If he only understood how I REALLY FELT ABOUT HIM, then
he would see past all this and LOVE ME".
 It's painful just typing the words.
So there you have it.  Part of the magic formula for losing a man
fast. Interesting, isn't it?
 But there's a much DEEPER message here.
 The message is this:
 If you don't understand the process of how to make a man feel ATTRACTION for you, including the
things to AVOID doing, then you're not going to have success.

 Not knowing how the things you're doing and saying affect a man makes it very difficult (or impossible) to create what you want with a man.  And unfortunately, some women have a HUGE disadvantage when it comes to men and dating...
You have emotional responses to situations that take over your thinking and reasoning, and make you do all the wrong things.
 It's usually OURSELVES that best sabotage our own success in life.

  Don't let this get you down though...
The GOOD NEWS is that it does NOT have to be this way. There is a BETTER way.

  If you found this particular discussion interesting, then you're probably ready to learn the DEEPER secrets of how to be more successful with men and dating.
 If you're ready to STOP losing men faster than you can meet them, then it's probably time for you to step up and get yourself an education about how to attract a man and KEEP him attracted.

 There's an old story that I love thinking about...  It's about a student wandering from town to town looking for enlightenment.
At each town he asks if anyone knows of a teacher who can show him the way, but he has no luck finding what he seeks.
Finally, the student comes to a town and is told that there's a wise teacher up on the hill,and that he should go and knock on his door.
The student goes up the hill and finds the teacher sitting at a table in his temple.
The student walks in a takes a seat at the table and asks the teacher if he knows about enlightenment.
The teacher says nothing, but puts a cup in front of the student and starts pouring tea
into the cup.
The student watches as the cup starts to fill up, and then spill over onto the table.
The student then says, "Hey, stop. You're spilling the tea."
The teacher then says, "That cup is like you."
 The student is perplexed and doesn't know what to say.  The teacher says again, "That cup is like
you. It is already full. Before you can take anything more in, we're going to have to empty out what's already filling it."

  If you're looking for quick answers or tips on how to make things work better when it comes to men,dating, and relationships... I have some for you.

 But the truth is that if you're finding yourself not only making some of the common mistakes I'm talking about... and you have some idea in the back of your mind that they are really coming from somewhere "deeper" inside you that's the source of why you get in your own way with men... then I want to give you more than answers.

  I want to help you get rid of what's already there that isn't working for you first.
That way, once you clear away what isn't working and is blocking you from getting what you want... taking the right positive steps will be much much easier.
 Past loves, past relationships, and past situations with men can have painful and lasting affects on you.
 And if you don't make sure to heal all the things you might be carrying from the past, it's going to be tough to not bring those into each and every new relationship in your life.


 

 

Passionless Relationship...Get The Love Back

If you feel like your relationship is great EXCEPT that your man isn't asking you to COMMIT 100% and take it "to the next level"...And you don't know the best way to approach the subject with him, or get things back on track towards an amazing and lasting relationship...Then there's something you need to know about men...A man is NOT going to commit because YOU think it's the right move, or because you think it's time.A man will only lead your relationship towards growth and progress when HE FEELS two things:

1) When he feels that you and your relationship makes his life better, instead of more difficult

2) When he feels that intense level of attraction and interest in you to where once he gets to know you, he can't stand the idea of NOT BEING WITH YOU

If you have a man in your life right now, let me ask you an honest question...
Are you happy with the current state of your relationship?

Have you been experiencing the kind of love and passion in your relationship that makes you feel more confident and emotionally fulfilled? Or...

Have the interactions with the man in your life somehow turned "sour" to where even the slightest look or misspoken word can drive a wedge between you and lead to conflict?

If things are starting to "sour" in your  relationship, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND you read this entire email.And if you've become aware that it's not just
you who sees that the passion is missing, but your man does too... then I'm going to have to INSIST that you read this email and follow what's in it. For your own good.

Now that we're clear on all that, let's get down to it.
If your relationship is wearing you down and making you feel weaker and less secure...
Instead of stronger and more beautiful, sexy and confident...
Then I'd like to talk to you about what you can do about it to quickly turn things around for the better- for both you and for the man you're with.

Let me start by asking you a direct question.
Take a minute, think about this question to yourself and try to answer as honestly as you can.

Here goes...
What is it that takes a relationship with all it's patterns and habits... and makes it suddenly change for the better?

I'll give you a second to take the question in and consider what it is that has the power to change a relationship between two people.


Okay,you probably came up with an idea or two about how relationships can change.
But I'm willing to bet that nothing came to mind that you know for sure is a quick and easy way to change the things that are creating distance and
problems in your relationship.

Don't worry. That's where I'm going to help you.

SYMPTOMS OF THE "PASSIONLESS RELATIONSHIP"
As a woman, there must be nothing worse than doing everything you can think of to make things work in your relationship...

Meanwhile all you're feeling inside is worn down, unappreciated, and over-extended.
For lots of women who have men they live with or are married to, the fact that you not only try and carry your relationship isn't where it ends.

You're also doing everything to keep your life, home, family,etc.together...while he doesn't seem to be doing his part.It's enough to drive you crazy.

The very last thing you can feel like doing after a full day is giving MORE to your man to help you reconnect.

How could it be that even though you're trying harder to make for a great relationship with the man in your life... that fun, free, easy
feeling of love and passion and connection seems to drift farther and farther away from you.
For lots of women, what once started out as an "easy" relationship where you and a man simply connected and enjoyed being together no matter what can unexpectedly turn into something a whole lot more difficult and frustrating.

Tell me something...Have you noticed that things with your man
fit with any of the following?

-He doesn't share the same kind of excitement about being with you and spending quality time together the way he used to

-He listens and responds to you less as time goes on

-He has stopped touching you, acting sweet and affectionate, and initiating sex

-He wants to spend more and more time "on his own"

Do any of these seem to be going on for you with the man in your life?
If so, then I want you to stop fooling yourself and get CLEAR about what's going on.
I hope you don't get mad at me for being the one to tell you... but I'm going to for your own good-

Your relationship is losing the PASSION that brought it together in the first place.And unless things change, it's likely that:

A) The ATTRACTION you share will DIE
The man you're with will likely STOP FEELING those "special feelings" that brought you together in the first place And...

B) The Cycle of less connection and less intimacy leading to... more frustration... leading to less connection and intimacy again... will continue to
spiral you and your relationship DOWNWARDS

And here YOU will keep falling deeper and deeper into that frustrated and unhappy place inside yourself that you know isn't good for you or your relationship because you don't feel beautiful, loved, or sexy. And the more you feel this way,
the worse things are going to continue to get.

If you can relate to what I'm talking about here, then there's something you need to recognize right now-

If you're spending a lot of time and energy on keeping together or trying to improve the relationship you're in right now, but it's ultimately
only digging you deeper into the frustrating situation you're already in...

 Then you first need to STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING
RIGHT NOW.

Then the answer is NOT for you to do more of the same.

Reason being, you're almost guaranteed to end up with the exact same RESULTS or OUTCOME.

I'm going to be unusually direct and honest here- 

Without the essential elements in place of that free-flowing PASSION you both don't have to work to feel, your relationship is in a lot more danger of ENDING than you might realize.
   

Tell me... How many times have you heard from a friend that the man in her life suddenly told her that he wanted to break up, and his only real reason or excuse was that he "just didn't feel it anymore." Or that he "loved her, but he wasn't IN LOVE with her."
   

Meanwhile, your friend felt like the relationship was going strong, even though there were those little bumps in the road that every relationship has. Sound familiar,this kind of thing might have even happened to you in the past.
   The point here is that too many women end up in relationships where the man they're with is acting disconnected and withdrawn, and there's little PASSION being shared anymore.
   And everything the woman tries in an effort to make a change for the better only ends up making them feel more frustrated and disappointed because the man doesn't seem to notice or care.
   Or worse, the man actually becomes ANGRY or IRRITATED every time you try and bring up the subject of your relationship and the reality of what's not working, and how it's making you feel.
   If you've ever been in this kind of situation with a man, or you're in one right now... then the reality is that you have A CHOICE TO MAKE -
   

You can either:
A) FREAK OUT as you see all the signs that your man isn't "feeling it" for you the way he used to, and as the passion keeps fading from your relationship (and push things further down the negative spiral
 

B) Not really make a choice to do anything but stay "quiet" and hope things change for the better, as you go down the road of uncertainty and your man keeps drifting farther and farther from you
 

C) Take a step back from your knee jerk reaction of fear, and do something to quickly turn things around right now
   

Most women don't know what it is that can take this unfortunately common situation and turn it around.
   

There are 2 immediate options you have, both of which I've seen work for women and allowed them to quickly turn their relationships around in no time flat.
   Even with the most withdrawn or disengaged men.(I'm talking healthy men here who have fallen into these negative relationship patterns with you. Not unhealthy and damaged men - that's a longer story.)
   I've seen women turn their relationships around with either of these things WITHOUT having to "do more work" in their relationship and take on more of the burden of carrying the relationship.
   

Doing MORE is not the answer when you're already doing all you can and it's not working. The answer is doing just a few simple things
the right way.
  The best part is, once you finally know what the right thing to do is, all it takes is a tiny bit of effort and the results are many many more times what you could get struggling with all your force.
 It's like lifting a giant piece of furniture. Try it by hand and it won't budge.But when you have the right pulleys and levers
it goes 'like butter'.
 

YOUR TWO OPTIONS TO QUICKLY CREATE A POSITIVE "SHIFT" IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
   I'm going to give you 2 options that I know from experience helping women can quickly allow you to do a kind of "reset" on your relationship and shift out of some of the negative dynamics that have been going on.
   

Using either of these options, I've literally
seen women:
-Go from feeling like they had to "nag" their boyfriends at every turn just so he'd be a part of their life and relationship... to suddenly having him excited to give, share and open up.
 

-Stop feeling like they were the only one GIVING and start RECEIVING tons more love and affection from their man.
 

-Shift from having to ask 5 times before the trash finally got taken out, to having their man asking them what more he could do to help out and make their lives great together
 

-Go from never hearing a kind word or unexpected compliment, to receiving constant and continual praise and appreciation for who they were
 

-Become consistently presented and surprised by romantic gestures such as flowers, gifts, and dates... all because their man was simply thinking
about them
   Do any of these sound like something you'd like to enjoy more of in your relationship? And how would it be to have any or all of these
happen for you WITHOUT having to ASK FOR IT?
   

Then here are your 2 options:
Option #1) Reconnect The "Essential Element" That Leads A Man To Feel & Act Passionately With You  

For a fast shortcut to what I'm talking about in this section, read this:  

There's one basic element all relationships have to have, or else they are just what you might call "friendships".
  Do you know what this one element is, and how it works for a man?
  If you don't, it's likely that a man will start to feel like you and he are more like friends than lifelong lovers. I'm going to share this with you right now.
   What I'm talking about is 100% guaranteed to have your man wanting to spend more quality time alone with you... and to make him think more and more about your future together.
  

This one essential element has the power to instantly change everything about how a man is thinks, acts, and FEELS with you. And strangely enough it's something I'm sure you already know about... but something you've likely forgotten about in the routine of your relationship and the confusion and frustrating situations that can come up with men.
   I'm talking about the magic feelings and emotions called ATTRACTION.
And I'm not just talking about the everyday Physical Attraction that makes a man interested in sex just as a physical thing.
   I'm talking about the kind of INTENSE ATTRACTION that reaches inside a man's heart and mind on a deeper level to where he can't help but be swept away by the FEELINGS he has for you... and he has to act on them or else he'll know he's doing the wrong thing.
  

 There are 2 HUGE misunderstandings women have when it comes to men, love and ATTRACTION. 

The first, and biggest misunderstanding, is thinking that attraction works the same way for MEN as it does for you. Lots of women mistakenly believe that if they simply do more of the things they know they want,or that THEY THINK makes for a great and loving relationship... that the man is sure to respond.WRONG!
   

This is plain and simple a false belief.Attraction works differently for men than it does for women. And if you keep trying to give a man what I call "Selfish Love" (giving to others only in the way you know YOU like to RECEIVE)then a man simply isn't going to respond to you and "feel it" for you.
   

Don't make this huge mistake that women and men both make with each other. You wouldn't want your man pretending that for you, a great night together at home consists of beer, chips, and the football game. 

The other giant misunderstanding about how attraction works is thinking that men will feel attraction the "nicer" you are, or the harder you try and please them or make them happy.
 Lots of women do this unconsciously as they try to gain a man's interest or attention by taking on what I call the "Super Friend" approach.
 They do favors for the man, compliment him all the time, try and stroke his ego... or even trade their affection for his time and attention. 
  

If you're dating a man and you want to take the level of attraction to the next level to where the EMOTIONAL CONNECTION you have will quickly be reconnected and intensify... here's where to
start-
   STOP doing all the "best friend" approach stuff of trying to make him like you, of winning his approval, of trying to carry the weight for you both, and of trying to make him happy and comfortable.
   This is making you miserable. And he can sense it. It's only making things worse.It's time you start doing the things that will have him literally stand up and take notice of the fun, playful and unique woman that you are.
   Trying to re-engage a partner in a relationship by talking to them about how much more "work" they need to do isn't a great approach or place to start.
 

You can bypass all the "what's wrong now" stuff and go straight to reconnecting by dealing with things on an EMOTIONAL LEVEL with a man.
   A great way to do this is to stop doing all the PREDICTABLE things that other women are doing as they're trying to "catch & keep" a man that
are ironically turning men off.
   Instead, try doing things that are UNPREDICTABLE that will grab a man's attention in a positive way and have him seeing you as wonderfully different from
other women - or from the frustrated and worn-down woman that he's seen feeling dissatisfied with him.
   

Turn the man you thought was a "lazy" partner into a man who's enthusiastic and excited about your life together, and all that's in it that you
can share.

Of course, I told you I'd also share with you the second option if you're looking for the right way to quickly get things on track with a man and draw him close to you for a great relationship.
Option #2) Break Through Your "Stalled" Relationship And Discover How Commitment And Growth Works FOR HIM  

Lots of women have an easy time meeting a man and starting off a new relationship.
  But then things always seem to fizzle after that early phase of lust and passion is over. One of the scariest truths that too many women
shy away from out of fear is that for most men, especially successful and attractive men with lots of options... they don't want to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one.
 In other words, lots of men who are "catches" won't just want a loving, lasting and COMMITTED relationship just because it could make their life better.
   

In fact, lots of these men have never met a woman who has showed them that a relationship truly does make life richer and more worth living. Lots of good men still haven't been able to recognize in a woman the qualities that show them
that their life could actually be BETTER as a result of being deeply in love and COMMITTED for the LONG RUN.
   Don't let what men either haven't found or seen in other women deter you from having the great relationship you know is possible when you meet a man.
   Discovering how men think about lasting and long-term relationships is half the secret.
   If you don't know what it is that makes a man see a woman as someone who he could see himself being with and staying with not just FOR NOW, but far into the future... then odds are you'll make the same mistake tons of other women make that only make the man in their life MORE RESISTANT to committing to lasting love.
   

One of the most common mistakes is talking to a man about becoming more involved and committed in your relationship as though it's the "right" or "logical" thing to do.
   Some women, when they sense that their relationship isn't growing... will try and jump-start things by DEMANDING that the man "get with the program" and make a bigger commitment. I can see the man WITHDRAWING right now.
  

 The false belief women hold about why men withdraw when this happens is that men are AFRAID of COMMITMENT. Nothing could be farther from the truth.
   The truth is, men aren't afraid of commitment when they feel like a woman UNDERSTANDS THEM and knows how to be the kind of partner who makes their life BETTER, not more confusing and complex.
   In other words, men are only afraid of commitment when they don't already sense that the woman is right for them.
   So when a woman can come into a man's life and show him the signs of a great woman that all men know and universally respond to... that supposed fear of commitment and the future simply disappears.
 

I'm sure you've known at least one man in your life who was a sworn bachelor. He'd talk about how he loved being single, and about how relationships were nothing but trouble. 

But then it happened..He met this one woman and suddenly EVERYTHING
CHANGED.Suddenly love was real and important.Suddenly he had a woman he truly cared about, and who he didn't want to lose or let go.Suddenly he was "hooked", and it was him who was driving the relationship forward and wanting
more.
   It is possible. Men can and do grow deeply connected and committed in relationships.But it takes them recognizing that you're the
right woman.

And best of luck in life and love.
      Christian Carter

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PartyPlanetng: GUIDE TO WEDDING PLANNING 3: Last time I said am going to tell you why you need and must have a NOTEPAD . Today,i am briefly going to state why and what you need this ...

GUIDE TO WEDDING PLANNING 3

Last time I said am going to tell you why you need and must have a NOTEPAD.
Today,i am briefly going to state why and what you need this notepad for.

Don't forget this saying, that "whoever that fail to plan has plan to fail definitely"The excess of your notepad is to have a plan of actions,name of vendors,price of items & services,time schedule for meetings,contact persons,phone numbers etc, that are going to help you lay out and coordinate your plans.

Now let me tip you on how I go about any major activities planning and successfully discharged my responsibilities.
There is what I called POLKA,polka is a central European dance but here it meant differently,it is:

P-Plan.Set up plan of actions which are very necessary and all other details you can think of,which include number of guests,souvenirs,clothing,accessories,invitations & other prints,monthly schedules and budget etc.Ensure you leave nothing behind,all things must be noted.

O-Organize.Organize your monthly schedule meetings with vendors and other important family,friends and whosoever have anything to do with your wedding arrangement,including your everyday activities, so your job will not suffer during the period you are preparing for your wedding.
State from calendar date and time you schedule to meet with these persons and if there is a revisit and any follow up to do,always remember to state it in your pad.

L-Lead. Take a lead in all your plans,never leave everything in the hands of people you delegate some job to do.Check and cross-check to be certain all is going according to plan.Always take a lead ahead.

K-Kontrol. You'll just have to be in control of situations no matter what,you will be the one to feel hurt if the event fails.Since it is your day, beware of advice and suggestions including assistance friends and family members willingly to give.If any don't go well with your plans,politely explain why it wont fit in and drop such idea,never make people around you feel bad over while in the actual fact they are trying to make their little contribution toward the success of your day.
Be in control,always be certain all is in order as it is plan.

A-Adjust. As you go about your planning,there will be need for some reschedule,re bargaining,recheck,revisit and so on that will make you bend a bit or in total,this is adjusting.
For instant,your budget may not be able to cover something,just because expected finance is not forthcoming,then you need to get going,therefore you'll have to adjust to meet with your purse status.

Start early,never fall into the common saying,"there is still plenty of time" habit,that will box you into avoidable pressure which might cause you a lot of stress and eventual disappointment.
Your notepad should have these following: an itinerary of Date & Time of Scheduled meetings,Location, Name of Vendors and Addresses,the Contact Persons and Phone numbers(collect biz cards too),List of things and items and their prices(always ask for receipts where necessary to keep tap and reclaim if need arises),email or websites and many more info that will guide your planning actions.
In order to plan a stress free wedding, you need to:
a) Develop a Plan
b) Be very clear who is doing what
c) Source for information in order to make informed decisions.
d) Coordination to ensure everything is pulling in the same direction.

In due course, I will give how a normal wedding planning notebook should be if I can reproduce one here.

Don't forget to check for list of vendors on our page at Facebook; www.facebook.com/partyplanetng

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GUIDE TO WEDDING PLANNING 2

In continuity to our guide to wedding planning, I said previously that your budgeting is an area you have to consider and take seriously because, its say at the end how well the wedding will come out to be.

Never leave anything behind but sees every details of your planning as important as the others.

Now, first thing first, get a NOTEPAD to list all your needs and schedule your itinerary as well state your budgeting and pricing.

Next time, I am going to give you in details on how you will go about creating in your notepad, time schedules and plans, however (visit www.facebook.com/partyplanetng) for list of possible VENDORS as reminder of who you will definitely and necessarily have to contact for your wedding needs

Meanwhile,if you'll need to engage a wedding planner, here is 5 steps to Hiring a Wedding Planner By Kristin Koch of www.theknot.com

1. Do Your Homework

Check out prospective planners’ websites for photos of recent weddings they have done to help narrow down your list. Notice whether elements seem to have a cohesive look and if there is an overarching style that the weddings share—this is probably what the planner is most experienced with, so decide if it’s one you like. If all the weddings that he’s planned look over-the-top and glamorous and you’re looking for a small, intimate gathering, he may not be the right person for you. Also, look for information about the types of planning services they offer, sites they’ve worked with, awards, and membership in professional associations (such as the Association of Bridal Consultants).

2. Call Your Favorites

Call your top three or four picks to confirm the following: types of planning services offered, names of sites they have worked with, wedding date availability, and appropriateness price-wise (ask their typical price range and/or cost of the average wedding they plan). If their answers fit your budget and your vision, set up appointments to meet with each of them.

3. Prepare for Your First Meeting

Bring magazine clippings, photos, and even your inspiration board(s) with you when you meet with potential planners. At your meeting, you obviously want to get a sense of the quality of their weddings by asking them about events they’ve done and perusing their portfolios, but you’re also looking at their personalities: Is this someone you can work with intimately for months at a time? Voice your ideas about your style and colors and see how the planner responds—she should meet them with enthusiasm. Then ask how she’d pull off your vision to get a better idea of how she works. A good planner should be able to listen to your thoughts and hone them to make your wedding something truly unique and memorable.

4. Call References

Don’t feel pressured to hire a planner you like on the spot. Be sure to call references and ask the following.

• How closely did she stick to your budget?


• Can you e-mail me photos from your wedding? (This is a good way to confirm the overall consistency and professionalism of the wedding. Planners’ portfolios are filled with their best work, and, of course, they’ll offer brides they know were happy with their work for references, so search online for other real weddings they’ve done as well.)


• How well did she interpret your ideas?


• Were the style and wedding exactly what you wanted?


• What did she take care of for you (guest list, vendor meetings, setup, etc.)?


• Did she have good vendor recommendations? Did she coordinate with other vendors?


• Did she respond quickly to your calls or e-mails? Was she nice to work with?


• Did the wedding go smoothly according to your guests?


• Did anything go wrong, and how did she handle it?

5. Seal the Deal

Also, take some time to compare and contrast prices, impressions, notes, and, if provided, formal proposals (some planners may draft their overall vision for your wedding and their intended services in the form of a proposal, which would then work as the basis for your contract). Once you’ve found your planner, call her immediately to express your desire to move forward and have her prepare a contract. As soon as you’ve signed the contract and paid your deposit, you’ll have your right-hand woman (or man) secured.

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GUIDE TO WEDDING PLANNING.

When planning for wedding,what is the first few things that come to mind.
Let see,sincerely most time it is FINANCE,FINANCE and where to start,how will it look like,what form and will it be successful as wished!

Therefore,I am going to engage us here on things needed while planning for wedding,how to make your list and go about sourcing for vendors and booking as well as negotiating to get the best bargain and following your budget as well your dreamed ideas to a successful wedding.

I am willing to answer questions from you and give free consultation to any prospective persons planning for his/her wedding.(contact through e-mail or call,you may leave comment.Be sure I'll get back to you.)

These guides are steps to steps suggestion for prospective couples planning wedding and I am conscious not to input time frame; however planning can start as early as from a year or less to the wedding date.

Today, I am going to brush over 3 issues that I think are first steps to successful wedding plan and  are what the two would have sat down to consider and iron out within themselves before tabling before the world, to avoid poor presentation and thoughtless, ill planned ideas.

1. Announcing your engagement to family members and friends. It is essential to meet with family members, especially parents to break the news of your engagement and your intention and plan to tie the nuptial knot. You may not have full detail plans but it is a good thought to get your family on the mark. These will afford them to key into your plan and keep abreast of your plans.

2) Discuss and announce your wedding date. After much deliberation, decide on your wedding date and announce it to your parents. (Check on what to consider when picking your date, tomorrow)

3) Discuss and set a budget and decide on how expenses will be shared. Now you are getting to a section of your planning that is really a herculean task, because the input and management of your spending will surely determine the success of your wedding. Mind you, I am not saying that how much you spending will be the determinant factor of a successful wedding but rather, how well you can manage your resources either with a big spending or moderately will go a long way the output of your planning. Remember the saying that “cut your cloth according to the money in your pocket”……continue tomorrow.