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Christmas cakes ideas
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Bar equipment;be the one for all Events & Parties!
Do you plan to be a bartender and will like to make a living attending events or just open a small bar to thrill your customers with variety of some exotic drinks
Check this list,start preparing yourself!
Being well equipped is one of the basic steps to running a successful bar. As well as having the right tools for the job, your equipment should be good quality and durable.
Here's a list of the equipment you'll need, as well as a short description or tip to help guide you.
Can Opener: Useful for opening cans of fruit and syrup.
Corkscrew: For opening wine and champagne bottles.
Cloths: For wiping surfaces and equipment. These should be damp and not wet.
Cutting Board: For slicing fruit and other garnishes. This should be heavy and laminated.
Bar Towels: These are 100% cotton and have sewn edges for durability. Use these along with cloths to keep things clean. Make good use of times where you have no guests to clean bottles and wipe surfaces.
Bottle Opener: For opening screw top bottles.
Bottle Sealers: For keeping liquors and other bottle contents fresh.
Cocktail Shaker: Essential for blending ingredients in cocktails and mixed drinks. Use a short, sharp and snappy shaking technique unless otherwise stated. There are many cocktail shakers available mostly all get the job done. Choose one that's right for you. Always pour the least expensive ingredient into the cocktail shaker first, and then if you find you've made a mistake, you've not wasted the expensive liquors.
Electric Blender: Many cocktails require a blender to blend the ingredients smoothly together.Useful for drinks with fruit pieces or ice cream etc.
Grater: To grate spices like nutmeg and others.
Ice Bucket: A metal or insulated ice bucket keeps your ice cold and clean.
Ice Tongs and Scoops: Use these to add ice to drinks. Never handle ice with your hands, it's not only unhygienic, but the heat from your hand will begin to melt the ice. Don't use glassware as a scoop it’ll break or chip at best, then you'll have blood and glass in your ice.
Jigger: A measurement tool.
Juice Squeezer/Extractor: Needed for getting the most juice out of your fruits. It helps to soak citrus fruit in hot water before squeezing.
Bar Spoon: A bar spoon with a long handle and a muddler end will allow you to mix and measure ingredients as well as crush garnishes.
Measuring Cups: Normally glass or chrome with incremented measurements imprinted up the side. These are needed for accurate measurements. They usually come with a set of measuring spoons which are needed for the smaller quantities.
Mixing Glass: Useful for long drinks where it is required to mix the ingredients without shaking.
Sharp Knife: For cutting fruit and garnishes.
Strainer: Removes the ice and fruit pulp from juices. This may come with a cocktail shaker.
Check this list,start preparing yourself!
Being well equipped is one of the basic steps to running a successful bar. As well as having the right tools for the job, your equipment should be good quality and durable.
Here's a list of the equipment you'll need, as well as a short description or tip to help guide you.
Can Opener: Useful for opening cans of fruit and syrup.
Corkscrew: For opening wine and champagne bottles.
Cloths: For wiping surfaces and equipment. These should be damp and not wet.
Cutting Board: For slicing fruit and other garnishes. This should be heavy and laminated.
Bar Towels: These are 100% cotton and have sewn edges for durability. Use these along with cloths to keep things clean. Make good use of times where you have no guests to clean bottles and wipe surfaces.
Bottle Opener: For opening screw top bottles.
Bottle Sealers: For keeping liquors and other bottle contents fresh.
Cocktail Shaker: Essential for blending ingredients in cocktails and mixed drinks. Use a short, sharp and snappy shaking technique unless otherwise stated. There are many cocktail shakers available mostly all get the job done. Choose one that's right for you. Always pour the least expensive ingredient into the cocktail shaker first, and then if you find you've made a mistake, you've not wasted the expensive liquors.
Electric Blender: Many cocktails require a blender to blend the ingredients smoothly together.Useful for drinks with fruit pieces or ice cream etc.
Grater: To grate spices like nutmeg and others.
Ice Bucket: A metal or insulated ice bucket keeps your ice cold and clean.
Ice Tongs and Scoops: Use these to add ice to drinks. Never handle ice with your hands, it's not only unhygienic, but the heat from your hand will begin to melt the ice. Don't use glassware as a scoop it’ll break or chip at best, then you'll have blood and glass in your ice.
Jigger: A measurement tool.
Juice Squeezer/Extractor: Needed for getting the most juice out of your fruits. It helps to soak citrus fruit in hot water before squeezing.
Bar Spoon: A bar spoon with a long handle and a muddler end will allow you to mix and measure ingredients as well as crush garnishes.
Measuring Cups: Normally glass or chrome with incremented measurements imprinted up the side. These are needed for accurate measurements. They usually come with a set of measuring spoons which are needed for the smaller quantities.
Mixing Glass: Useful for long drinks where it is required to mix the ingredients without shaking.
Sharp Knife: For cutting fruit and garnishes.
Strainer: Removes the ice and fruit pulp from juices. This may come with a cocktail shaker.
Non Alcoholic Drinks 1
Banana Milk Shake
Drink Type: Non-Alcoholic
Ingredients:
10 cl cold milk
4 cl orange juice
2 tsp sugar syrup
1/2 mashed banana
Read more: Banana Milk Shake recipe http://www.drinksmixer.com/drink1040.html#ixzz2DcTS5HUw
Instructions
Blend until smooth and pour into a wine glass. Garnish with whipped cream and a piece of banana.
Honey Milk Shake
Drink Type: Non-Alcoholic
Ingredients
1 cup(s) Milk
1 1/2 oz. Vanilla Ice Cream
1 tbsp. Honey
Instructions
Blend until smooth and serve in a highball glass with a straw.
Pussy Foot
Drink Type: Non-Alcoholic
Ingredients
1/3 oz. Grenadine
1 1/3 oz. Pineapple Juice
1 1/3 oz. Orange Juice
1 1/3 oz. Grapefruit Juice
Instructions
Shake or blend briefly, strain into a long drink glass. Garnish with fresh fruit, a cherry, and a drinking straw.
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CUSTOMER ACQUISITION STRATEGIES FOR YOUR BUSINESS (2) by williamsp(Mocality)
In the first part of this series, we discussed growing your business by bringing in more customers. The post today will talk about making more sales without necessarily increasing the number of your customers!
To understand this strategy, it is pertinent you understand why people buy anything. You see, customers don’t buy products or service; they buy end result. They buy a product because it is a means to an end (they want). For instance, someone who buys a book doesn’t really need the book, but the knowledge in the book. Or the product could be body cream, but in the customer’s mind, the end result is a smoother, fresher, youthful, and more beautiful skin.
If you recognize this, you can always add products and services that help customers achieve their end result more completely, conveniently, and efficiently and in the process get them to buy more from you.
The hard part is getting customers to know and trust you to make that first purchase. Once that is achieved, you simply need to let them know how you can give them more of what they want.
There are basically two techniques that can help you deliver greater benefits to your customers while increasing your revenue and profit at the same time:
Cross selling
This is offering your customers the opportunity to add related items to their basic purchase from you. Items that when combined together will increase the level of satisfaction or significance of the ultimate result more completely.
I once worked in a Christian bookstore. Whenever a customer bought a bible, it was customary for me or any other sales attendant to ask the customer whether he would like to buy a bible cover to protect and prolong the life of the bible. Not only that, it would also be suggested to the customer to buy a bible marker to mark his favorite parts of the new bible. That is cross selling. The bible is the front end product while the bible cover and the marker are back end products.
However, key to successful cross-selling is to focus your efforts on meeting the customer’s needs, rather than simply pushing more products and service. In the bible store example, the customer would definitely benefit more from buying a cover to protect his bible. And a bible marker would enhance his study of the bible; while the store will invariably make more money from the customer.
You have probably been cross sold too. Have you ever bought a camera phone? You may have picked a reasonably affordable one of say N15000, but after adding memory card, car charger, and case, you ended up spending N18000.
This simple strategy works because people hardly hesitate in situations like this. They are already there to buy something, so buying more is an easy next step. Once a prospect has made a purchase, he is in “buying mode”
This strategy can work in all kinds of business. That pepper seller on your street is another good example. You buy a N200 pepper from her and she offers to grind it for only N50 naira. Even if you have a blender at home, you sometimes allow her to grind the pepper because her doing so would save you the trouble of washing and cleaning the pepper (which she will do at no extra charge)
So, you can—and should make use of cross selling to make more money from each customer. Offer your prospect a related product or service when they make a purchase.
How to come up with cross-selling opportunities in your business
Action steps
Step 1
Identify where your customer goes before he or she buys your product or service and offer complimentary product or service your customer is likely to buy anyway.
For example, if you run a music training academy, be sure to sell equipment necessary to perform the task you are teaching (keyboard, piano, trumpet, violin, music manuscript etc.). If you cannot directly sell this equipment for one reason or the other, form an alliance with a provider (for a share of the profit).
Step 2
Find out where customers go or what they need after they buy your product or service. Using the music academy example, once they have gained mastery of a musical instrument, some of your students might want to monetize their newly acquired skill. Thus, you can offer brokerage service where you link schools and churches that are in need of talented musicians with your recently graduated students.
Up selling
This is simply increasing the value of what a customer buys from you. It is offering your customer a slightly different product from what they thought they needed if the different product will satisfy the customer more completely, conveniently and efficiently.
A few years ago, we needed to change the water pumping machine in our house. The intention was to replace the bad (surface) pump with a newer one of the same type. At the machine sales store, the salesman asked me a couple of questions about the depth and location of our borehole, and based on my responses, he advised that a submersible pumping machine will be more suitable for our house than a surface pump. He gave a couple of reasons while this was so. Thus, rather than buy a N14000 surface pump as I planned, I ended up buying a N27000 submersible pump.
The key point here is to understand your customers’ needs and that you are genuinely giving them something that‘ll help them better achieve the satisfying end result they want.
“Dozen price,” “three for fifty naira,” “super pack”: these are all popular parts of our lexicon but more importantly, they are a great example of upselling a customer on the quantity of the purchase.
This strategy is effective because people are willing to buy more than they ordinarily do when given the option or incentive; just try offering four for the price of three, or buy three and get one free, of almost anything and you ‘ll see customers that typically buy just one item going for the higher quantity.
Chapman– a drink for the champs!
Surely, any drink that has a double-barelled reference to men in one word is worth a closer look. Enter Chapman.
I’ve always known Chapman. It is a very Nigerian drink. And that I’m 90% sure off. I’ve never had it in any other country and I remember my friends in the UK being delighted and suprised when I made it for them a few years ago. This citrusy (non)alcoholic cocktail has accompanied many a dinner date with teenagers and adults alike. When I was young, it was the in-thing. And boy did we enjoy it.
For many years, I completely forgot it existed. Those were my years in Liverpool (1997 – 2000) when I was busy exploring other delights like cider. And then, not even in any great depth. It wasn’t till I went home one summer for a couple of weeks and had it again that my head spun and determinedly, I brought back the recipe and the secret ingredient all the way from Naija (affecionate term for Nigeria).
Now while I won’t call it a Tropical drink at all, (I think) it has the look and feel of warm climes, maybe because of all the ice and the cirtusy scents and flavours that accompany it. It is very easy to make, easy to customize and suitable for all ages and almost always comes out right.
Can you guess what’s in it?
Were you right? Note that the key to this whole drink is a very
special, not so secret ingredient…, and no, not the Fanta and Sprite! It
looks tropical….doesn’t it? Set your mind in motion 
….I should give you a tip though. Its not tropical! Cousins to Coca-cola,….and the like
Secret special is called Bitters – Angostura Bitters. Or shall I be exactly exact and say Angostura Aromatic Bitters.
45% alcohol but only a tiny splash or a couple of drops are needed. And
the transformation, the uplifting is complete. Ready to serve. Although
Bitters have a high alcohol content, they generally consist of gentian,
aromatic herbs and spices, probably preserved in alcohol. Angostura
gives this drink its characteristic and unique flavour! You can still
make it if you cant find this specific brand or bitters at all but….
My funniest memory of Chapman though was a few years ago – 2003 to
be exact. I remember ’cause I was very pregnant with J (#1 girl) and we
were at a wedding with my sister and her family. Of course Chapman was
served, in copious quantities. Well, my niece too a liking to the
somewhat red colour and kept drinking from the mugs we were being
served. Unbeknownst to us….something funny was going down. The more she
drank, the more active she became – dancing and displaying her talents
at 2 years old. And then, amazed at her energy levels, someone figured
out that perhaps there was something in the drink which was causing
this……and there was : Campari. That put a quick stop to her self-watering. Thankfully, there were no adverse effects.
In Nigeria, Chapman is almost always served in a beer mug. I have made it in so many ways – in a punch-bowl for a kids party; in dainty cocktail glasses for grown-ups and just as a refreshing drink at home in a beer mug. Each one calls for its own ‘container’. None affect the taste. Whatsoever.
The following quantity will fill
1 beer mug or 4 cocktail glasses or about 10 little plastic cups
You will need
Ice cubes 3-4 tablespoons of Blackcurrant/ Cassis cordial/syrup/squash (In Nigeria and in the UK, I used Ribena) 350 ml Sprite or 7 up, preferably cold 350ml Fanta, preferably cold 1/8th of a teaspoon of Angostura Bitters Squeeze of Lemon Squeeze of Lime Squeeze of Orange To garnish: Cucumber slices, Citrus quarters
Put the about half of the Icecubes in a glass or jug or bowl, saving
the rest to serve the drinks. Pour the blackcurrant cordial in.
Add the Sprite and Fanta.
Then add the bitters, being careful not to add too much. We’re aiming for a smooth balanced finish and not the taste of trees!
The next step are the citrus twist – add a squeeze of Lemon, Lime and Orange.
That’s it. Almost ready.
Give the mix a good stir and pour into glasses or cups. Top up with the remaining Ice cubes. And garnish.
Enjoy.
Note that there are several variations on this theme
1. You could use fruit flavoured icecubes
2. Instead of the Blackcurrant cordial, you could use Grenadine syrup or even Pomengranate syrup. The key thing is to get the ‘Chapman red’ colour
3. You could swap some or all of the Fanta and Sprite with Ginger ale or Bitter Lemon
Whatever you decide, please make this and share your favourite combos with me.
I assure you that this refreshing cocktail (contrary to the suggestions above) is neither come and go (it is here for ALL seasons) nor unstable in its nature (consistent in how to make it and its great taste). So, I rapidly discard that definition and go for it in all its grace and strength – male and all.def. Chapman – an archaic term for an itinerant peddler
I’ve always known Chapman. It is a very Nigerian drink. And that I’m 90% sure off. I’ve never had it in any other country and I remember my friends in the UK being delighted and suprised when I made it for them a few years ago. This citrusy (non)alcoholic cocktail has accompanied many a dinner date with teenagers and adults alike. When I was young, it was the in-thing. And boy did we enjoy it.
For many years, I completely forgot it existed. Those were my years in Liverpool (1997 – 2000) when I was busy exploring other delights like cider. And then, not even in any great depth. It wasn’t till I went home one summer for a couple of weeks and had it again that my head spun and determinedly, I brought back the recipe and the secret ingredient all the way from Naija (affecionate term for Nigeria).
Now while I won’t call it a Tropical drink at all, (I think) it has the look and feel of warm climes, maybe because of all the ice and the cirtusy scents and flavours that accompany it. It is very easy to make, easy to customize and suitable for all ages and almost always comes out right.
Can you guess what’s in it?
….I should give you a tip though. Its not tropical! Cousins to Coca-cola,….and the likeIn Nigeria, Chapman is almost always served in a beer mug. I have made it in so many ways – in a punch-bowl for a kids party; in dainty cocktail glasses for grown-ups and just as a refreshing drink at home in a beer mug. Each one calls for its own ‘container’. None affect the taste. Whatsoever.
What I love about itRecipe for your Chapman
- its easy to make, no special knowledge or skills required, save slice and squeeze
- You can make both junior and senior versions
- You can make it in any quantity
- Varying the combinations and permutations are a snap
The following quantity will fill
1 beer mug or 4 cocktail glasses or about 10 little plastic cups
You will need
Ice cubes 3-4 tablespoons of Blackcurrant/ Cassis cordial/syrup/squash (In Nigeria and in the UK, I used Ribena) 350 ml Sprite or 7 up, preferably cold 350ml Fanta, preferably cold 1/8th of a teaspoon of Angostura Bitters Squeeze of Lemon Squeeze of Lime Squeeze of Orange To garnish: Cucumber slices, Citrus quarters
Put the about half of the Icecubes in a glass or jug or bowl, saving
the rest to serve the drinks. Pour the blackcurrant cordial in. Give the mix a good stir and pour into glasses or cups. Top up with the remaining Ice cubes. And garnish.
1. You could use fruit flavoured icecubes
2. Instead of the Blackcurrant cordial, you could use Grenadine syrup or even Pomengranate syrup. The key thing is to get the ‘Chapman red’ colour
3. You could swap some or all of the Fanta and Sprite with Ginger ale or Bitter Lemon
4. You could easily transform this from
non-alcoholic to alcoholic by adding a capful or two (use your
discretion) of your favourite spirit. Or add some Campari.
5. You determine your garnishes – mint, cucumbers, citrus slices.
I’ve read of people loving bananas in it. Personally, I’m a cucumber
babe but you just might be a Pineapple kinda guy, who knows. Go with the
flow and do rock the boat i f you must. Expand your horizons and mine.Whatever you decide, please make this and share your favourite combos with me.
Thanks and TTFN. Oh, if you want to do more with Angostura, check out their recipe links.
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Posted by Sarah of mywedding.com
5 Fast Ways To Lose A Man
Do you know how most women end up losing the man in their life? Do you know the reason most men end up losing interest in the woman who they used to be wild about?Do you know how to lose a man, and how to do it lightning-fast?But why would you want to know about how to LOSE a man?
Well, I'm going to throw out a crazy idea for you to think about... I'm going to suggest that you are probably
already an EXPERT at losing a man. In fact, it might just come naturally for you.
For lots of women, this seems to be the case.But the real PROBLEM is that most women don't
UNDERSTAND why they're so good at LOSING the
man in their life.
In other words, they walk through the world screwing up one situation after another and never
realize just how good they are at being bad with understanding men.
And they don't realize that by changing just a few key things they could change their lives and their experiences with men DRAMATICALLY.
One great way to increase your success in life is to start REALIZING what you're doing.
Most people call this AWARENESS.
The point being, once you actually understand what you're doing and the results you're helping to create around you, you can CHANGE.
TYPICAL THINGS WOMEN DO WITH MEN
Try this on for size...
What happens if a man expects you to act or behave a certain way that's "negative" and he
doesn't like... and then you show up and act this way?
Right.
Not only does he not like the way you're being with him... but you're also doing something else
that will have him seeing you in an even worse light...
You'll be acting very PREDICTABLE and fulfilling all of the worst expectations a man might have about you, or about women in general.
Here's something you might not have thought about-You, like lots of other women, are probably acting in a ways that are often very PREDICTABLE to men. In fact, PAINFULLY predictable.
The thing is... as humans, we do basically the same things when we get into common situations as others, and we don't even realize it.
Predictable responses to common situations happen often enough for most people that when we get around someone new in our life... we can often guess what's going to happen next.
Part of this serves a useful purpose for us socially and in the way we relate and connect with each other. But part of it works entirely AGAINST US.
Here's why being predictable can be so bad when it comes to men and dating...
Look at this formula:
Predictable = Boring
Boring = Emotionally Flat
Emotionally Flat = No ATTRACTION
No Attraction = No Interest or Attention or Affection From A Man
One of the VERY BEST ways to lose a man is to act or become very PREDICTABLE.
A huge mistake women make that causes them to start acting predictable to men in negative ways
is GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER or putting your life "on hold" for a man while you're trying to make sure your relationship is working.
The reality is that men are NOT attracted to women who aren't living their lives in a fulfilling way.
At least not HEALTHY AND ATTRACTIVE MEN who would rather have NO RELATIONSHIP and be alone if they can't have the right kind of relationship for them.
Here are a few examples of how women act PREDICTABLE, give too much of themselves away, and make about 129 other huge mistakes with men they've just met or are dating:
1) Calling Him All The Time
If you like or love someone, it's great to let them know, right?Yes and No
There's a way to let a man know you love him or you're thinking about him that will end up making him feel like you're "needy" and clingy and he'll want space away from you. It's great if you feel so strongly for a man
and you share such a great connection that you can't wait until the next time you talk.
But even if you're not feeling "needy" about why you call a man all the time... a man will often PERCEIVE this as a sign of INSECURITY and NEEDINESS and actually start wanting to talk to you and be around you less and less.
Calling a man all the time and constantly wanting to talk, and to have him talk to you is a great way to lose a man before you even have him.
2) Doing "Nice Things" And Favors For Him
What do lots of women do when they meet a guy that they "really like" and things are slow to come together?
Well, they get into a series of long life conversation about schools and families and jobs and 100 other everyday things that everyone has going on in their lives... only to realize that it isn't creating ATTRACTION inside the man even though they're sharing with each other.
He's completely "in his own head" and not paying much attention to them. And being "nice" doesn't work either.
3) Acting Like His Girlfriend From The Beginning
What's better than a nice, thoughtful woman who is loving and reassuring and nurturing from the very first date?
The man is just starting to get to know her, and if he feels a "serious relationship" starting before he's even had time to figure out how he feels about this woman and if she'd be right for him... most of the time he'll pull
away without any explanation.
If you come on too strong too soon in terms of calling him "pet names", or staying home on Friday and Saturday nights, or naming your kids before you know each others last names... you'll appear just like every other predictable woman that has ever tried to figure out what a man and a relationship is all about before it even gets time to grow.
4) Telling Him How You "Feel" Too Early On
This might be one of my favorites because it feels so "right" and comes so naturally, but creates the wrong situations and dynamics with a man
For some UNKNOWN and UNGODLY reason, women just seem to LOVE telling great men how they FEEL within the first couple of dates.Maybe even within the first few hours.Again, when you do this you're making all kinds of huge mistakes...and basically doing everything you can do to LOSE him by playing right into the very things that aren't going to work for you,help you be your "best self", or create the OUTCOME
you're looking for.
5) Keep Telling Him How You Feel When He Needs Space
And as if the last example wasn't painful enough, most women usually like to use this final "nail in the coffin" technique as well...
Here's the situation:
You've met a guy you really like. Maybe you've gone out with him a few times. Doesn't matter.
You do all the things you can think of to SCREW IT UP, and you finally succeed.
You prove to him that you just don't get it,that you'll lose your composure quickly and easily and let it all out around him... and generally show him that you're easily scared and don't know how to handle yourself or what's going on between you.
So he says, "I need some space" or "I need some time to myself".
And what do most women do? Of course. They KEEP telling the man how they feel. They keep trying to "figure it all out"and they keep trying to understand and to feel understood.
And they do it in 100 annoying ways that only make the man want to get farther away.
The thought that most women have is, "If he only understood how I REALLY FELT ABOUT HIM, then
he would see past all this and LOVE ME".
It's painful just typing the words.
So there you have it. Part of the magic formula for losing a man
fast. Interesting, isn't it?
But there's a much DEEPER message here.
The message is this:
If you don't understand the process of how to make a man feel ATTRACTION for you, including the
things to AVOID doing, then you're not going to have success.
Not knowing how the things you're doing and saying affect a man makes it very difficult (or impossible) to create what you want with a man. And unfortunately, some women have a HUGE disadvantage when it comes to men and dating...
You have emotional responses to situations that take over your thinking and reasoning, and make you do all the wrong things.
It's usually OURSELVES that best sabotage our own success in life.
Don't let this get you down though...
The GOOD NEWS is that it does NOT have to be this way. There is a BETTER way.
If you found this particular discussion interesting, then you're probably ready to learn the DEEPER secrets of how to be more successful with men and dating.
If you're ready to STOP losing men faster than you can meet them, then it's probably time for you to step up and get yourself an education about how to attract a man and KEEP him attracted.
There's an old story that I love thinking about... It's about a student wandering from town to town looking for enlightenment.
At each town he asks if anyone knows of a teacher who can show him the way, but he has no luck finding what he seeks.
Finally, the student comes to a town and is told that there's a wise teacher up on the hill,and that he should go and knock on his door.
The student goes up the hill and finds the teacher sitting at a table in his temple.
The student walks in a takes a seat at the table and asks the teacher if he knows about enlightenment.
The teacher says nothing, but puts a cup in front of the student and starts pouring tea
into the cup.
The student watches as the cup starts to fill up, and then spill over onto the table.
The student then says, "Hey, stop. You're spilling the tea."
The teacher then says, "That cup is like you."
The student is perplexed and doesn't know what to say. The teacher says again, "That cup is like
you. It is already full. Before you can take anything more in, we're going to have to empty out what's already filling it."
If you're looking for quick answers or tips on how to make things work better when it comes to men,dating, and relationships... I have some for you.
But the truth is that if you're finding yourself not only making some of the common mistakes I'm talking about... and you have some idea in the back of your mind that they are really coming from somewhere "deeper" inside you that's the source of why you get in your own way with men... then I want to give you more than answers.
I want to help you get rid of what's already there that isn't working for you first.
That way, once you clear away what isn't working and is blocking you from getting what you want... taking the right positive steps will be much much easier.
Past loves, past relationships, and past situations with men can have painful and lasting affects on you.
And if you don't make sure to heal all the things you might be carrying from the past, it's going to be tough to not bring those into each and every new relationship in your life.
Well, I'm going to throw out a crazy idea for you to think about... I'm going to suggest that you are probably
already an EXPERT at losing a man. In fact, it might just come naturally for you.
For lots of women, this seems to be the case.But the real PROBLEM is that most women don't
UNDERSTAND why they're so good at LOSING the
man in their life.
In other words, they walk through the world screwing up one situation after another and never
realize just how good they are at being bad with understanding men.
And they don't realize that by changing just a few key things they could change their lives and their experiences with men DRAMATICALLY.
One great way to increase your success in life is to start REALIZING what you're doing.
Most people call this AWARENESS.
The point being, once you actually understand what you're doing and the results you're helping to create around you, you can CHANGE.
TYPICAL THINGS WOMEN DO WITH MEN
Try this on for size...
What happens if a man expects you to act or behave a certain way that's "negative" and he
doesn't like... and then you show up and act this way?
Right.
Not only does he not like the way you're being with him... but you're also doing something else
that will have him seeing you in an even worse light...
You'll be acting very PREDICTABLE and fulfilling all of the worst expectations a man might have about you, or about women in general.
Here's something you might not have thought about-You, like lots of other women, are probably acting in a ways that are often very PREDICTABLE to men. In fact, PAINFULLY predictable.
The thing is... as humans, we do basically the same things when we get into common situations as others, and we don't even realize it.
Predictable responses to common situations happen often enough for most people that when we get around someone new in our life... we can often guess what's going to happen next.
Part of this serves a useful purpose for us socially and in the way we relate and connect with each other. But part of it works entirely AGAINST US.
Here's why being predictable can be so bad when it comes to men and dating...
Look at this formula:
Predictable = Boring
Boring = Emotionally Flat
Emotionally Flat = No ATTRACTION
No Attraction = No Interest or Attention or Affection From A Man
One of the VERY BEST ways to lose a man is to act or become very PREDICTABLE.
A huge mistake women make that causes them to start acting predictable to men in negative ways
is GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER or putting your life "on hold" for a man while you're trying to make sure your relationship is working.
The reality is that men are NOT attracted to women who aren't living their lives in a fulfilling way.
At least not HEALTHY AND ATTRACTIVE MEN who would rather have NO RELATIONSHIP and be alone if they can't have the right kind of relationship for them.
Here are a few examples of how women act PREDICTABLE, give too much of themselves away, and make about 129 other huge mistakes with men they've just met or are dating:
1) Calling Him All The Time
If you like or love someone, it's great to let them know, right?Yes and No
There's a way to let a man know you love him or you're thinking about him that will end up making him feel like you're "needy" and clingy and he'll want space away from you. It's great if you feel so strongly for a man
and you share such a great connection that you can't wait until the next time you talk.
But even if you're not feeling "needy" about why you call a man all the time... a man will often PERCEIVE this as a sign of INSECURITY and NEEDINESS and actually start wanting to talk to you and be around you less and less.
Calling a man all the time and constantly wanting to talk, and to have him talk to you is a great way to lose a man before you even have him.
2) Doing "Nice Things" And Favors For Him
What do lots of women do when they meet a guy that they "really like" and things are slow to come together?
Well, they get into a series of long life conversation about schools and families and jobs and 100 other everyday things that everyone has going on in their lives... only to realize that it isn't creating ATTRACTION inside the man even though they're sharing with each other.
He's completely "in his own head" and not paying much attention to them. And being "nice" doesn't work either.
3) Acting Like His Girlfriend From The Beginning
What's better than a nice, thoughtful woman who is loving and reassuring and nurturing from the very first date?
The man is just starting to get to know her, and if he feels a "serious relationship" starting before he's even had time to figure out how he feels about this woman and if she'd be right for him... most of the time he'll pull
away without any explanation.
If you come on too strong too soon in terms of calling him "pet names", or staying home on Friday and Saturday nights, or naming your kids before you know each others last names... you'll appear just like every other predictable woman that has ever tried to figure out what a man and a relationship is all about before it even gets time to grow.
4) Telling Him How You "Feel" Too Early On
This might be one of my favorites because it feels so "right" and comes so naturally, but creates the wrong situations and dynamics with a man
For some UNKNOWN and UNGODLY reason, women just seem to LOVE telling great men how they FEEL within the first couple of dates.Maybe even within the first few hours.Again, when you do this you're making all kinds of huge mistakes...and basically doing everything you can do to LOSE him by playing right into the very things that aren't going to work for you,help you be your "best self", or create the OUTCOME
you're looking for.
5) Keep Telling Him How You Feel When He Needs Space
And as if the last example wasn't painful enough, most women usually like to use this final "nail in the coffin" technique as well...
Here's the situation:
You've met a guy you really like. Maybe you've gone out with him a few times. Doesn't matter.
You do all the things you can think of to SCREW IT UP, and you finally succeed.
You prove to him that you just don't get it,that you'll lose your composure quickly and easily and let it all out around him... and generally show him that you're easily scared and don't know how to handle yourself or what's going on between you.
So he says, "I need some space" or "I need some time to myself".
And what do most women do? Of course. They KEEP telling the man how they feel. They keep trying to "figure it all out"and they keep trying to understand and to feel understood.
And they do it in 100 annoying ways that only make the man want to get farther away.
The thought that most women have is, "If he only understood how I REALLY FELT ABOUT HIM, then
he would see past all this and LOVE ME".
It's painful just typing the words.
So there you have it. Part of the magic formula for losing a man
fast. Interesting, isn't it?
But there's a much DEEPER message here.
The message is this:
If you don't understand the process of how to make a man feel ATTRACTION for you, including the
things to AVOID doing, then you're not going to have success.
Not knowing how the things you're doing and saying affect a man makes it very difficult (or impossible) to create what you want with a man. And unfortunately, some women have a HUGE disadvantage when it comes to men and dating...
You have emotional responses to situations that take over your thinking and reasoning, and make you do all the wrong things.
It's usually OURSELVES that best sabotage our own success in life.
Don't let this get you down though...
The GOOD NEWS is that it does NOT have to be this way. There is a BETTER way.
If you found this particular discussion interesting, then you're probably ready to learn the DEEPER secrets of how to be more successful with men and dating.
If you're ready to STOP losing men faster than you can meet them, then it's probably time for you to step up and get yourself an education about how to attract a man and KEEP him attracted.
There's an old story that I love thinking about... It's about a student wandering from town to town looking for enlightenment.
At each town he asks if anyone knows of a teacher who can show him the way, but he has no luck finding what he seeks.
Finally, the student comes to a town and is told that there's a wise teacher up on the hill,and that he should go and knock on his door.
The student goes up the hill and finds the teacher sitting at a table in his temple.
The student walks in a takes a seat at the table and asks the teacher if he knows about enlightenment.
The teacher says nothing, but puts a cup in front of the student and starts pouring tea
into the cup.
The student watches as the cup starts to fill up, and then spill over onto the table.
The student then says, "Hey, stop. You're spilling the tea."
The teacher then says, "That cup is like you."
The student is perplexed and doesn't know what to say. The teacher says again, "That cup is like
you. It is already full. Before you can take anything more in, we're going to have to empty out what's already filling it."
If you're looking for quick answers or tips on how to make things work better when it comes to men,dating, and relationships... I have some for you.
But the truth is that if you're finding yourself not only making some of the common mistakes I'm talking about... and you have some idea in the back of your mind that they are really coming from somewhere "deeper" inside you that's the source of why you get in your own way with men... then I want to give you more than answers.
I want to help you get rid of what's already there that isn't working for you first.
That way, once you clear away what isn't working and is blocking you from getting what you want... taking the right positive steps will be much much easier.
Past loves, past relationships, and past situations with men can have painful and lasting affects on you.
And if you don't make sure to heal all the things you might be carrying from the past, it's going to be tough to not bring those into each and every new relationship in your life.
Passionless Relationship...Get The Love Back
If you feel like your relationship is great EXCEPT that your man isn't asking you to COMMIT 100% and take it "to the next level"...And you don't know the best way to approach the subject with him, or get things back on track towards an amazing and lasting relationship...Then there's something you need to know about men...A man is NOT going to commit because YOU think it's the right move, or because you think it's time.A man will only lead your relationship towards growth and progress when HE FEELS two things:
1) When he feels that you and your relationship makes his life better, instead of more difficult
2) When he feels that intense level of attraction and interest in you to where once he gets to know you, he can't stand the idea of NOT BEING WITH YOU
If you have a man in your life right now, let me ask you an honest question...
Are you happy with the current state of your relationship?
Have you been experiencing the kind of love and passion in your relationship that makes you feel more confident and emotionally fulfilled? Or...
Have the interactions with the man in your life somehow turned "sour" to where even the slightest look or misspoken word can drive a wedge between you and lead to conflict?
If things are starting to "sour" in your relationship, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND you read this entire email.And if you've become aware that it's not just
you who sees that the passion is missing, but your man does too... then I'm going to have to INSIST that you read this email and follow what's in it. For your own good.
Now that we're clear on all that, let's get down to it.
If your relationship is wearing you down and making you feel weaker and less secure...
Instead of stronger and more beautiful, sexy and confident...
Then I'd like to talk to you about what you can do about it to quickly turn things around for the better- for both you and for the man you're with.
Let me start by asking you a direct question.
Take a minute, think about this question to yourself and try to answer as honestly as you can.
Here goes...
What is it that takes a relationship with all it's patterns and habits... and makes it suddenly change for the better?
I'll give you a second to take the question in and consider what it is that has the power to change a relationship between two people.
Okay,you probably came up with an idea or two about how relationships can change.
But I'm willing to bet that nothing came to mind that you know for sure is a quick and easy way to change the things that are creating distance and
problems in your relationship.
Don't worry. That's where I'm going to help you.
SYMPTOMS OF THE "PASSIONLESS RELATIONSHIP"
As a woman, there must be nothing worse than doing everything you can think of to make things work in your relationship...
Meanwhile all you're feeling inside is worn down, unappreciated, and over-extended.
For lots of women who have men they live with or are married to, the fact that you not only try and carry your relationship isn't where it ends.
You're also doing everything to keep your life, home, family,etc.together...while he doesn't seem to be doing his part.It's enough to drive you crazy.
The very last thing you can feel like doing after a full day is giving MORE to your man to help you reconnect.
How could it be that even though you're trying harder to make for a great relationship with the man in your life... that fun, free, easy
feeling of love and passion and connection seems to drift farther and farther away from you.
For lots of women, what once started out as an "easy" relationship where you and a man simply connected and enjoyed being together no matter what can unexpectedly turn into something a whole lot more difficult and frustrating.
Tell me something...Have you noticed that things with your man
fit with any of the following?
-He doesn't share the same kind of excitement about being with you and spending quality time together the way he used to
-He listens and responds to you less as time goes on
-He has stopped touching you, acting sweet and affectionate, and initiating sex
-He wants to spend more and more time "on his own"
Do any of these seem to be going on for you with the man in your life?
If so, then I want you to stop fooling yourself and get CLEAR about what's going on.
I hope you don't get mad at me for being the one to tell you... but I'm going to for your own good-
Your relationship is losing the PASSION that brought it together in the first place.And unless things change, it's likely that:
A) The ATTRACTION you share will DIE
The man you're with will likely STOP FEELING those "special feelings" that brought you together in the first place And...
B) The Cycle of less connection and less intimacy leading to... more frustration... leading to less connection and intimacy again... will continue to
spiral you and your relationship DOWNWARDS
And here YOU will keep falling deeper and deeper into that frustrated and unhappy place inside yourself that you know isn't good for you or your relationship because you don't feel beautiful, loved, or sexy. And the more you feel this way,
the worse things are going to continue to get.
If you can relate to what I'm talking about here, then there's something you need to recognize right now-
If you're spending a lot of time and energy on keeping together or trying to improve the relationship you're in right now, but it's ultimately
only digging you deeper into the frustrating situation you're already in...
Then you first need to STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING
RIGHT NOW.
Then the answer is NOT for you to do more of the same.
Reason being, you're almost guaranteed to end up with the exact same RESULTS or OUTCOME.
I'm going to be unusually direct and honest here-
Without the essential elements in place of that free-flowing PASSION you both don't have to work to feel, your relationship is in a lot more danger of ENDING than you might realize.
Tell me...
How many times have you heard from a friend that the man in her life suddenly told her that he wanted to break up, and his only real reason or excuse was that he "just didn't feel it anymore."
Or that he "loved her, but he wasn't IN LOVE with her."
Meanwhile, your friend felt like the relationship was going strong, even though there were those little bumps in the road that every relationship has.
Sound familiar,this kind of thing might have even happened to you in the past.
The point here is that too many women end up in relationships where the man they're with is acting disconnected and withdrawn, and there's little PASSION being shared anymore.
And everything the woman tries in an effort to make a change for the better only ends up making them feel more frustrated and disappointed because the man doesn't seem to notice or care.
Or worse, the man actually becomes ANGRY or IRRITATED every time you try and bring up the subject of your relationship and the reality of what's not working, and how it's making you feel.
If you've ever been in this kind of situation with a man, or you're in one right now... then the reality is that you have A CHOICE TO MAKE -
The point here is that too many women end up in relationships where the man they're with is acting disconnected and withdrawn, and there's little PASSION being shared anymore.
And everything the woman tries in an effort to make a change for the better only ends up making them feel more frustrated and disappointed because the man doesn't seem to notice or care.
Or worse, the man actually becomes ANGRY or IRRITATED every time you try and bring up the subject of your relationship and the reality of what's not working, and how it's making you feel.
If you've ever been in this kind of situation with a man, or you're in one right now... then the reality is that you have A CHOICE TO MAKE -
You can either:
A) FREAK OUT as you see all the signs that your man isn't "feeling it" for you the way he used to, and as the passion keeps fading from your relationship (and push things further down the negative spiral
A) FREAK OUT as you see all the signs that your man isn't "feeling it" for you the way he used to, and as the passion keeps fading from your relationship (and push things further down the negative spiral
B) Not really make a choice to do anything but stay "quiet" and hope things change for the better, as you go down the road of uncertainty and your man keeps drifting farther and farther from you
C) Take a step back from your knee jerk reaction of fear, and do something to quickly turn things around right now
Most women don't know what it is that can take this unfortunately common situation and turn it around.
There are 2 immediate options you have, both of which I've seen work for women and allowed them to quickly turn their relationships around in no time flat.
Even with the most withdrawn or disengaged men.(I'm talking healthy men here who have fallen into these negative relationship patterns with you. Not unhealthy and damaged men - that's a longer story.)
I've seen women turn their relationships around with either of these things WITHOUT having to "do more work" in their relationship and take on more of the burden of carrying the relationship.
Even with the most withdrawn or disengaged men.(I'm talking healthy men here who have fallen into these negative relationship patterns with you. Not unhealthy and damaged men - that's a longer story.)
I've seen women turn their relationships around with either of these things WITHOUT having to "do more work" in their relationship and take on more of the burden of carrying the relationship.
Doing MORE is not the answer when you're already doing all you can and it's not working.
The answer is doing just a few simple things
the right way.
The best part is, once you finally know what the right thing to do is, all it takes is a tiny bit of effort and the results are many many more times what you could get struggling with all your force.
It's like lifting a giant piece of furniture. Try it by hand and it won't budge.But when you have the right pulleys and levers
it goes 'like butter'.
the right way.
The best part is, once you finally know what the right thing to do is, all it takes is a tiny bit of effort and the results are many many more times what you could get struggling with all your force.
It's like lifting a giant piece of furniture. Try it by hand and it won't budge.But when you have the right pulleys and levers
it goes 'like butter'.
YOUR TWO OPTIONS TO QUICKLY CREATE A POSITIVE "SHIFT" IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
I'm going to give you 2 options that I know from experience helping women can quickly allow you to do a kind of "reset" on your relationship and shift out of some of the negative dynamics that have been going on.
I'm going to give you 2 options that I know from experience helping women can quickly allow you to do a kind of "reset" on your relationship and shift out of some of the negative dynamics that have been going on.
Using either of these options, I've literally
seen women:
-Go from feeling like they had to "nag" their boyfriends at every turn just so he'd be a part of their life and relationship... to suddenly having him excited to give, share and open up.
seen women:
-Go from feeling like they had to "nag" their boyfriends at every turn just so he'd be a part of their life and relationship... to suddenly having him excited to give, share and open up.
-Stop feeling like they were the only one GIVING and start RECEIVING tons more love and affection from their man.
-Shift from having to ask 5 times before the trash finally got taken out, to having their man asking them what more he could do to help out and make their lives great together
-Go from never hearing a kind word or unexpected compliment, to receiving constant and continual praise and appreciation for who they were
-Become consistently presented and surprised by romantic gestures such as flowers, gifts, and dates... all because their man was simply thinking
about them
Do any of these sound like something you'd like to enjoy more of in your relationship? And how would it be to have any or all of these
happen for you WITHOUT having to ASK FOR IT?
about them
Do any of these sound like something you'd like to enjoy more of in your relationship? And how would it be to have any or all of these
happen for you WITHOUT having to ASK FOR IT?
Then here are your 2 options:
Option #1) Reconnect The "Essential Element" That Leads A Man To Feel & Act Passionately With You
Option #1) Reconnect The "Essential Element" That Leads A Man To Feel & Act Passionately With You
For a fast shortcut to what I'm talking about in this section, read this:
There's one basic element all relationships have to have, or else they are just what you might call "friendships".
Do you know what this one element is, and how it works for a man?
If you don't, it's likely that a man will start to feel like you and he are more like friends than lifelong lovers. I'm going to share this with you right now.
What I'm talking about is 100% guaranteed to have your man wanting to spend more quality time alone with you... and to make him think more and more about your future together.
Do you know what this one element is, and how it works for a man?
If you don't, it's likely that a man will start to feel like you and he are more like friends than lifelong lovers. I'm going to share this with you right now.
What I'm talking about is 100% guaranteed to have your man wanting to spend more quality time alone with you... and to make him think more and more about your future together.
This one essential element has the power to instantly change everything about how a man is thinks, acts, and FEELS with you.
And strangely enough it's something I'm sure you already know about... but something you've likely forgotten about in the routine of your relationship and the confusion and frustrating situations that can come up with men.
I'm talking about the magic feelings and emotions called ATTRACTION.
And I'm not just talking about the everyday Physical Attraction that makes a man interested in sex just as a physical thing.
I'm talking about the kind of INTENSE ATTRACTION that reaches inside a man's heart and mind on a deeper level to where he can't help but be swept away by the FEELINGS he has for you... and he has to act on them or else he'll know he's doing the wrong thing.
I'm talking about the magic feelings and emotions called ATTRACTION.
And I'm not just talking about the everyday Physical Attraction that makes a man interested in sex just as a physical thing.
I'm talking about the kind of INTENSE ATTRACTION that reaches inside a man's heart and mind on a deeper level to where he can't help but be swept away by the FEELINGS he has for you... and he has to act on them or else he'll know he's doing the wrong thing.
There are 2 HUGE misunderstandings women have when it comes to men, love and ATTRACTION.
The first, and biggest misunderstanding, is thinking that attraction works the same way for MEN as it does for you.
Lots of women mistakenly believe that if they simply do more of the things they know they want,or that THEY THINK makes for a great and loving relationship... that the man is sure to respond.WRONG!
This is plain and simple a false belief.Attraction works differently for men than it does for women. And if you keep trying to give a man what I call "Selfish Love" (giving to others only in the way you know YOU like to RECEIVE)then a man simply isn't going to respond to you and "feel it" for you.
Don't make this huge mistake that women and men both make with each other.
You wouldn't want your man pretending that for you, a great night together at home consists of beer, chips, and the football game.
The other giant misunderstanding about how attraction works is thinking that men will feel attraction the "nicer" you are, or the harder you try and please them or make them happy.
Lots of women do this unconsciously as they try to gain a man's interest or attention by taking on what I call the "Super Friend" approach.
They do favors for the man, compliment him all the time, try and stroke his ego... or even trade their affection for his time and attention.
Lots of women do this unconsciously as they try to gain a man's interest or attention by taking on what I call the "Super Friend" approach.
They do favors for the man, compliment him all the time, try and stroke his ego... or even trade their affection for his time and attention.
If you're dating a man and you want to take the level of attraction to the next level to where the EMOTIONAL CONNECTION you have will quickly be reconnected and intensify... here's where to
start-
STOP doing all the "best friend" approach stuff of trying to make him like you, of winning his approval, of trying to carry the weight for you both, and of trying to make him happy and comfortable.
This is making you miserable. And he can sense it. It's only making things worse.It's time you start doing the things that will have him literally stand up and take notice of the fun, playful and unique woman that you are.
Trying to re-engage a partner in a relationship by talking to them about how much more "work" they need to do isn't a great approach or place to start.
start-
STOP doing all the "best friend" approach stuff of trying to make him like you, of winning his approval, of trying to carry the weight for you both, and of trying to make him happy and comfortable.
This is making you miserable. And he can sense it. It's only making things worse.It's time you start doing the things that will have him literally stand up and take notice of the fun, playful and unique woman that you are.
Trying to re-engage a partner in a relationship by talking to them about how much more "work" they need to do isn't a great approach or place to start.
You can bypass all the "what's wrong now" stuff and go straight to reconnecting by dealing with things on an EMOTIONAL LEVEL with a man.
A great way to do this is to stop doing all the PREDICTABLE things that other women are doing as they're trying to "catch & keep" a man that
are ironically turning men off.
Instead, try doing things that are UNPREDICTABLE that will grab a man's attention in a positive way and have him seeing you as wonderfully different from
other women - or from the frustrated and worn-down woman that he's seen feeling dissatisfied with him.
A great way to do this is to stop doing all the PREDICTABLE things that other women are doing as they're trying to "catch & keep" a man that
are ironically turning men off.
Instead, try doing things that are UNPREDICTABLE that will grab a man's attention in a positive way and have him seeing you as wonderfully different from
other women - or from the frustrated and worn-down woman that he's seen feeling dissatisfied with him.
Turn the man you thought was a "lazy" partner into a man who's enthusiastic and excited about your life together, and all that's in it that you
can share.
Of course, I told you I'd also share with you the second option if you're looking for the right way to quickly get things on track with a man and draw him close to you for a great relationship.
Option #2) Break Through Your "Stalled" Relationship And Discover How Commitment And Growth Works FOR HIM
can share.
Of course, I told you I'd also share with you the second option if you're looking for the right way to quickly get things on track with a man and draw him close to you for a great relationship.
Option #2) Break Through Your "Stalled" Relationship And Discover How Commitment And Growth Works FOR HIM
Lots of women have an easy time meeting a man and starting off a new relationship.
But then things always seem to fizzle after that early phase of lust and passion is over. One of the scariest truths that too many women
shy away from out of fear is that for most men, especially successful and attractive men with lots of options... they don't want to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one.
In other words, lots of men who are "catches" won't just want a loving, lasting and COMMITTED relationship just because it could make their life better.
But then things always seem to fizzle after that early phase of lust and passion is over. One of the scariest truths that too many women
shy away from out of fear is that for most men, especially successful and attractive men with lots of options... they don't want to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one.
In other words, lots of men who are "catches" won't just want a loving, lasting and COMMITTED relationship just because it could make their life better.
In fact, lots of these men have never met a woman who has showed them that a relationship truly does make life richer and more worth living.
Lots of good men still haven't been able to recognize in a woman the qualities that show them
that their life could actually be BETTER as a result of being deeply in love and COMMITTED for the LONG RUN.
Don't let what men either haven't found or seen in other women deter you from having the great relationship you know is possible when you meet a man.
Discovering how men think about lasting and long-term relationships is half the secret.
If you don't know what it is that makes a man see a woman as someone who he could see himself being with and staying with not just FOR NOW, but far into the future... then odds are you'll make the same mistake tons of other women make that only make the man in their life MORE RESISTANT to committing to lasting love.
that their life could actually be BETTER as a result of being deeply in love and COMMITTED for the LONG RUN.
Don't let what men either haven't found or seen in other women deter you from having the great relationship you know is possible when you meet a man.
Discovering how men think about lasting and long-term relationships is half the secret.
If you don't know what it is that makes a man see a woman as someone who he could see himself being with and staying with not just FOR NOW, but far into the future... then odds are you'll make the same mistake tons of other women make that only make the man in their life MORE RESISTANT to committing to lasting love.
One of the most common mistakes is talking to a man about becoming more involved and committed in your relationship as though it's the "right" or "logical" thing to do.
Some women, when they sense that their relationship isn't growing... will try and jump-start things by DEMANDING that the man "get with the program" and make a bigger commitment. I can see the man WITHDRAWING right now.
Some women, when they sense that their relationship isn't growing... will try and jump-start things by DEMANDING that the man "get with the program" and make a bigger commitment. I can see the man WITHDRAWING right now.
The false belief women hold about why men withdraw when this happens is that men are AFRAID of COMMITMENT.
Nothing could be farther from the truth.
The truth is, men aren't afraid of commitment when they feel like a woman UNDERSTANDS THEM and knows how to be the kind of partner who makes their life BETTER, not more confusing and complex.
In other words, men are only afraid of commitment when they don't already sense that the woman is right for them.
So when a woman can come into a man's life and show him the signs of a great woman that all men know and universally respond to... that supposed fear of commitment and the future simply disappears.
The truth is, men aren't afraid of commitment when they feel like a woman UNDERSTANDS THEM and knows how to be the kind of partner who makes their life BETTER, not more confusing and complex.
In other words, men are only afraid of commitment when they don't already sense that the woman is right for them.
So when a woman can come into a man's life and show him the signs of a great woman that all men know and universally respond to... that supposed fear of commitment and the future simply disappears.
I'm sure you've known at least one man in your life who was a sworn bachelor.
He'd talk about how he loved being single, and about how relationships were nothing but trouble.
But then it happened..He met this one woman and suddenly EVERYTHING
CHANGED.Suddenly love was real and important.Suddenly he had a woman he truly cared about, and who he didn't want to lose or let go.Suddenly he was "hooked", and it was him who was driving the relationship forward and wanting
more.
It is possible. Men can and do grow deeply connected and committed in relationships.But it takes them recognizing that you're the
right woman.
CHANGED.Suddenly love was real and important.Suddenly he had a woman he truly cared about, and who he didn't want to lose or let go.Suddenly he was "hooked", and it was him who was driving the relationship forward and wanting
more.
It is possible. Men can and do grow deeply connected and committed in relationships.But it takes them recognizing that you're the
right woman.
And best of luck in life and love.
Christian Carter
Christian Carter
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GUIDE TO WEDDING PLANNING 3
Last time I said am going to tell you why you need and must have a NOTEPAD.
Today,i am briefly going to state why and what you need this notepad for.
Don't forget this saying, that "whoever that fail to plan has plan to fail definitely"The excess of your notepad is to have a plan of actions,name of vendors,price of items & services,time schedule for meetings,contact persons,phone numbers etc, that are going to help you lay out and coordinate your plans.
Now let me tip you on how I go about any major activities planning and successfully discharged my responsibilities.
There is what I called POLKA,polka is a central European dance but here it meant differently,it is:
P-Plan.Set up plan of actions which are very necessary and all other details you can think of,which include number of guests,souvenirs,clothing,accessories,invitations & other prints,monthly schedules and budget etc.Ensure you leave nothing behind,all things must be noted.
O-Organize.Organize your monthly schedule meetings with vendors and other important family,friends and whosoever have anything to do with your wedding arrangement,including your everyday activities, so your job will not suffer during the period you are preparing for your wedding.
State from calendar date and time you schedule to meet with these persons and if there is a revisit and any follow up to do,always remember to state it in your pad.
L-Lead. Take a lead in all your plans,never leave everything in the hands of people you delegate some job to do.Check and cross-check to be certain all is going according to plan.Always take a lead ahead.
K-Kontrol. You'll just have to be in control of situations no matter what,you will be the one to feel hurt if the event fails.Since it is your day, beware of advice and suggestions including assistance friends and family members willingly to give.If any don't go well with your plans,politely explain why it wont fit in and drop such idea,never make people around you feel bad over while in the actual fact they are trying to make their little contribution toward the success of your day.
Be in control,always be certain all is in order as it is plan.
A-Adjust. As you go about your planning,there will be need for some reschedule,re bargaining,recheck,revisit and so on that will make you bend a bit or in total,this is adjusting.
For instant,your budget may not be able to cover something,just because expected finance is not forthcoming,then you need to get going,therefore you'll have to adjust to meet with your purse status.
Start early,never fall into the common saying,"there is still plenty of time" habit,that will box you into avoidable pressure which might cause you a lot of stress and eventual disappointment.
Your notepad should have these following: an itinerary of Date & Time of Scheduled meetings,Location, Name of Vendors and Addresses,the Contact Persons and Phone numbers(collect biz cards too),List of things and items and their prices(always ask for receipts where necessary to keep tap and reclaim if need arises),email or websites and many more info that will guide your planning actions.
In order to plan a stress free wedding, you need to:
a) Develop a Plan
b) Be very clear who is doing what
c) Source for information in order to make informed decisions.
d) Coordination to ensure everything is pulling in the same direction.
In due course, I will give how a normal wedding planning notebook should be if I can reproduce one here.
Don't forget to check for list of vendors on our page at Facebook; www.facebook.com/partyplanetng
Watch out for more here
Today,i am briefly going to state why and what you need this notepad for.
Don't forget this saying, that "whoever that fail to plan has plan to fail definitely"The excess of your notepad is to have a plan of actions,name of vendors,price of items & services,time schedule for meetings,contact persons,phone numbers etc, that are going to help you lay out and coordinate your plans.
Now let me tip you on how I go about any major activities planning and successfully discharged my responsibilities.
There is what I called POLKA,polka is a central European dance but here it meant differently,it is:
P-Plan.Set up plan of actions which are very necessary and all other details you can think of,which include number of guests,souvenirs,clothing,accessories,invitations & other prints,monthly schedules and budget etc.Ensure you leave nothing behind,all things must be noted.
O-Organize.Organize your monthly schedule meetings with vendors and other important family,friends and whosoever have anything to do with your wedding arrangement,including your everyday activities, so your job will not suffer during the period you are preparing for your wedding.
State from calendar date and time you schedule to meet with these persons and if there is a revisit and any follow up to do,always remember to state it in your pad.
L-Lead. Take a lead in all your plans,never leave everything in the hands of people you delegate some job to do.Check and cross-check to be certain all is going according to plan.Always take a lead ahead.
K-Kontrol. You'll just have to be in control of situations no matter what,you will be the one to feel hurt if the event fails.Since it is your day, beware of advice and suggestions including assistance friends and family members willingly to give.If any don't go well with your plans,politely explain why it wont fit in and drop such idea,never make people around you feel bad over while in the actual fact they are trying to make their little contribution toward the success of your day.
Be in control,always be certain all is in order as it is plan.
A-Adjust. As you go about your planning,there will be need for some reschedule,re bargaining,recheck,revisit and so on that will make you bend a bit or in total,this is adjusting.
For instant,your budget may not be able to cover something,just because expected finance is not forthcoming,then you need to get going,therefore you'll have to adjust to meet with your purse status.
Start early,never fall into the common saying,"there is still plenty of time" habit,that will box you into avoidable pressure which might cause you a lot of stress and eventual disappointment.
Your notepad should have these following: an itinerary of Date & Time of Scheduled meetings,Location, Name of Vendors and Addresses,the Contact Persons and Phone numbers(collect biz cards too),List of things and items and their prices(always ask for receipts where necessary to keep tap and reclaim if need arises),email or websites and many more info that will guide your planning actions.
In order to plan a stress free wedding, you need to:
a) Develop a Plan
b) Be very clear who is doing what
c) Source for information in order to make informed decisions.
d) Coordination to ensure everything is pulling in the same direction.
In due course, I will give how a normal wedding planning notebook should be if I can reproduce one here.
Don't forget to check for list of vendors on our page at Facebook; www.facebook.com/partyplanetng
Watch out for more here
GUIDE TO WEDDING PLANNING 2
In continuity to our guide to wedding planning, I said
previously that your budgeting is an area you have to consider and take
seriously because, its say at the end how well the wedding will come out to be.
Never leave anything behind but sees every details of your
planning as important as the others.
Now, first thing first, get a NOTEPAD to list all your needs
and schedule your itinerary as well state your budgeting and pricing.
Next time, I am going to give you in details on how you will go about creating in your notepad, time schedules and plans, however (visit www.facebook.com/partyplanetng) for list of possible VENDORS as reminder of who you will definitely and necessarily have to contact for your wedding needs
Meanwhile,if you'll need to engage a wedding planner, here is 5 steps to Hiring a Wedding Planner By Kristin Koch of www.theknot.com
1. Do Your Homework
Check out prospective planners’ websites for photos of recent weddings they have done to help narrow down your list. Notice whether elements seem to have a cohesive look and if there is an overarching style that the weddings share—this is probably what the planner is most experienced with, so decide if it’s one you like. If all the weddings that he’s planned look over-the-top and glamorous and you’re looking for a small, intimate gathering, he may not be the right person for you. Also, look for information about the types of planning services they offer, sites they’ve worked with, awards, and membership in professional associations (such as the Association of Bridal Consultants).2. Call Your Favorites
Call your top three or four picks to confirm the following: types of planning services offered, names of sites they have worked with, wedding date availability, and appropriateness price-wise (ask their typical price range and/or cost of the average wedding they plan). If their answers fit your budget and your vision, set up appointments to meet with each of them.3. Prepare for Your First Meeting
Bring magazine clippings, photos, and even your inspiration board(s) with you when you meet with potential planners. At your meeting, you obviously want to get a sense of the quality of their weddings by asking them about events they’ve done and perusing their portfolios, but you’re also looking at their personalities: Is this someone you can work with intimately for months at a time? Voice your ideas about your style and colors and see how the planner responds—she should meet them with enthusiasm. Then ask how she’d pull off your vision to get a better idea of how she works. A good planner should be able to listen to your thoughts and hone them to make your wedding something truly unique and memorable.4. Call References
Don’t feel pressured to hire a planner you like on the spot. Be sure to call references and ask the following.- How closely did she stick to your budget?
- Can you e-mail me photos from your wedding? (This is a good way to confirm the overall consistency and professionalism of the wedding. Planners’ portfolios are filled with their best work, and, of course, they’ll offer brides they know were happy with their work for references, so search online for other real weddings they’ve done as well.)
- How well did she interpret your ideas?
- Were the style and wedding exactly what you wanted?
- What did she take care of for you (guest list, vendor meetings, setup, etc.)?
- Did she have good vendor recommendations? Did she coordinate with other vendors?
- Did she respond quickly to your calls or e-mails? Was she nice to work with?
- Did the wedding go smoothly according to your guests?
- Did anything go wrong, and how did she handle it?
5. Seal the Deal
Also, take some time to compare and contrast prices, impressions, notes, and, if provided, formal proposals (some planners may draft their overall vision for your wedding and their intended services in the form of a proposal, which would then work as the basis for your contract). Once you’ve found your planner, call her immediately to express your desire to move forward and have her prepare a contract. As soon as you’ve signed the contract and paid your deposit, you’ll have your right-hand woman (or man) secured.
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